AITA for raising rent and asking my sister-in-law to pay, even though she says we weren’t “treating her like family”?

Throw away because this is a lot. My sister-in-law lived with me and my husband for over two years. She paid $300/month in rent, which didn’t include utilities, Wi-Fi, or anything else. She ate our food most of the time, sometimes bought groceries for herself, but didn’t share them. Our mortgage is just over $2k/month, and utilities and Wi-Fi would exist with or without her, so we thought this arrangement was fair.

Important context: she was making good money at her job, so she had the money to cover rent and utilities but consistently chose not to. The rent was agreed to before she even moved in, if she needed a place to stay without paying rent, we could have worked something out but that was not the agreement.

When she moved out, she destroyed the place:

* Our guest bed and mattress (which we lent her) were ruined by her cats. They peed all over it and tore up the upholstery on the bed frame. It was a brand new mattress as well.
* Bedroom carpet was absolutely disgusting… soaked with cat urine, vomit, and literal clumps of cat poop were left on the carpet.
* Holes in walls, a huge hole in a closet, blinds destroyed.
* Paint splattered on floors and ceiling. Hardwood floors had to be refinished.
* Basement carpet was also ruined by her cats.
* Bedroom and laundry doors broken.
* Cats peed on our geriatric dog’s new orthopedic bed. She didn’t care and literally asked me what I wanted her to do about it.
* She left a bunch her stuff behind and told us to take it to the dump after I asked her when she would be back. Then she told people we kept her stuff and wouldn’t give it back.

Before all that, things had been problematic for a long time:

* She stayed up gaming or with friends over until 3–4 AM and would be LOUD. Like music bumping, cackling, and shouting. When we asked her to quiet down so we could sleep (always after 12 AM) she got angry.
* She repeatedly missed rent while going on two-week trips, getting a big tattoo, multiple cross state trips for concerts, and spending money on other things. When I confronted her, she claimed I was “treating her like a landlord, not family.”
* She moved her girlfriend in without asking. She stayed almost every day, ate our food, showered here, etc.

We raised rent to $500 because utilities had shot over $500/month since she moved in. We talked to her and told her honestly that we couldn’t afford to keep the rent at $300 when we were feeding her, her cats, the utilities increasing so much, etc. She decided to move out, then told the family we were “money-hungry” and didn’t treat her like family.

Even after all this, we invited her to holidays. She ignored us, ate our food, hung out with other siblings, and left.

My husband’s family thinks we were assholes, while my friends and family think she went way too far.

So, **AITA?**