For a bit of context I’m a 3rd year uni student (male) and I have a pretty stable group of good friends and we all hang out together during lunch and during breaks most of the time. We aren’t exactly each others first inner circle but not an acquaintance type friend either.
My friend, we’ll call her Yumi for privacy has a diary where she writes a lot of her feelings and reflections on her life often in an introspective way. Our names are all written there too and our character and impact on her life and also our flaws and such. This is all done because she’s using this in an almost therapeutic or reflection type way cuss she has some trauma as some of us do.
The reason why I I am giving that specific context is that our names are written in the diary which is why I thought we have some right to it because it’s not 100 percent about her.
She herself had trusted me with the knowledge that the journal exists because she herself wanted me to read some specific parts about me written in there. No one else even knew about the journal at this point.
So this Monday (2 days ago) during our lunch break (It’s the first week back), we were all sitting down together about 6 of us and she went to grab a drink from the cafeteria. I knew she kept the journal in her bag as I’ve seen her put it there and read some parts that she wanted me to see so I grabbed it and quickly got to the other parts about the others. There was some funny stuff but it wasn’t insane insane but funny enough where I started reading it out and everyone was laughing quite a bit except one friend who told me to stop. This lasted around 10-12 minutes if I had to guess until she walks back over and gives me the most cold stare ever before snatching it away from me and slapping me hard. She grabbed her bag and just walked out. This is when everyone realized what was going on and also shunned me and started cursing me out before we all just finished our food in almost cold silence before leaving one by one.
My other friends told me they caught up with her crying later and she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and isn’t replying to my texts despite me saying I’m sorry like 50 times and saying it was a stupid thing I did but it wasn’t with harmful intentions.
On top of this everyone is just looking at me like the bad guy now.
Thoughts?
YTA
What a gross invasion of privacy.
In what universe are you *not* the asshole?
YTA for creating life long trauma i hope your house gets bed bugs and there are spiders in your shoes and I hope every night you step on legos. Also I hope you get the day you deserve.
YTA. Like wow. Wow. You.. are not a good friend. That’s super gross.
You read her private thoughts out loud for 10 + straight minutes while you can your buddies *laughed* at it? Unreal.
yta what the fuck is wrong with you
Only had to read the title
Unless she explicitly gave you permission, YTA and extremely immature.
YTA. You crossed a huge boundary. Diaries are incredibly personal. “Yumi” allowed you to read some of her diary, which was a big show of trust to you. Then, you betrayed that trust by reading her diary to others without her consent. I can’t believe you don’t understand why that is wrong.
YOU CANNOT BE SERIOUS. If you are, then you ARE THE BIGGEST ASSHOLE ON REDDIT—and they’re quite a few.
You felt entitled to read a private journal because you were mentioned in it?? And how exactly did you know that??? ESP??
Great job on destroying her trust in you. Might as well play Taps and bury that friendship. YTA
I don’t believe this is real. No one is going to believe a full AH would be asking if they were an AH.
YTA
‘I invaded my friend’s privacy and read her personal diary out loud’
in what scenario would you NOT be the asshole?
YTA 100000% the entitlement you must have to think that you’re allowed to look at another person’s possession about their private thoughts and perceptions of the world if fucking wild bro. This isn’t a FOIA, it’s her personal stuff. Stay the fuck out of it.
Is this a joke or are you seriously unaware whether you’re the asshole or not?
You went into her bag 🚩, took out her diary 🚩, and read it aloud to your friends 🚩, of course YTA. She shouldn’t have slapped you, that’s not ok either.
You broke her trust – YTA.
YTA. I stopped reading after you basically said ‘because she talks about us in her private writings, we’re allowed to read it’. Absolutely asinine logic. A diary is PRIVATE. And should never be read unless given permission or the writer passes.
What makes you think you’re entitled to someone’s personal thoughts simply because you’re mentioned? I hope someone more well-spoken than me explains exactly how wrong your thinking is.
Jesus christ dude that is legit some psychotic mental gymnastics you’re using to justify this to yourself. No amount of context makes what you did reasonable. YTA and your friends are too for laughing along.
Congrats btw, you’ve set some kinda record. In 10 minutes flat, you’ve demonstrated to everyone that you are never to be trusted with anything ever, and there is absolutely nothing you can do to fix it.