So my girlfriend (21F) and I (25M) were playing games together on Discord. I downloaded an old Mortal Kombat game and we were playing it through Steam remote play. After that, I suggested we play Brawlhalla. She told me she knows the game really well and that it might not be fair since I’ve never played it, but I still wanted to try it.
While we were playing Brawlhalla, she was talking about how it used to be her main game and how she reached a high rank before. I honestly don’t like Brawlhalla that much, and while we were playing I started talking about how the dodge system sucks and how it’s basically a cheap version of Smash Bros.
She suggested we switch to a different game, but I said I wanted to keep playing. She said she wasn’t going to keep playing something I clearly wasn’t enjoying and that she could tell my mood was getting worse.
She shut off the game, and it was quiet for a bit. Then I asked her what she wanted to do, and she said she was in a bad mood and didn’t feel like doing anything.
She explained that my comments hurt her, and I told her, “it’s not my fault you got offended,” because I didn’t mean anything personal by saying I didn’t like the game.
I also brought up a time when she criticized a game I like, to show that it goes both ways. She said it wasn’t the same because she wasn’t saying it while I was actively playing and trying to enjoy it, and she wasn’t trying to ruin the moment.
After that, I got really frustrated and didn’t know what else to say, so I kind of shut down. She started crying and kept asking me to talk, but I felt overwhelmed and annoyed and didn’t know what to say without making things worse, so I stayed mostly quiet or gave short answers.
She asked me to apologize, but I didn’t want to because I didn’t feel like I was completely in the wrong, and apologizing felt like admitting fault for something I didn’t fully understand, which felt unfair to me. Eventually, she said good night and ended the call.
AITA?
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YTA Behaving like a child. Of course it’s hurtful that you are belittling a game she felt achievement from being good at. You are indirectly saying that her being good at it is not impressive or worth less because it’s a bad game. Even if it wasn’t intentional it should be obvious and you should have apologised right away.
YTA, bruh stop whining. At 25 you should really know not to complain in the middle of doing something your partner likes, it’s disheartening to share something only to be met with criticism.
Plus your girlfriend not only tried to compromise but also communicate her feelings and find a resolution.
YTA. She wanted to share something with you that she enjoys and you just wanted to shit on it the entire time. Apologize. Is your relationship worth your stance on Brawlhalla?
ESH you guys need to learn how to communicate
YTA
She told you it was her main game at one point and she liked it a lot. She warned you that she was good at it. In a cloud of your own ego you shut her down and made her feel small when it turned out you sucked at playing it. Apologize or enjoy single life because she should walk away if your ego is more important then her.
YTA. Have you ever heard the phrase “don’t yuck my yum”? Basically, when you know someone really likes something (like a game that your gf has spent many hours playing and enjoying), it is rude to harshly criticize it. You could have kept your opinion to yourself. Or you could have apologized when you learned you hurt her feelings. You’re lucky she didn’t dump you for being a cheap version of a boyfriend.
“She asked me to apologize, but I didn’t want to because I didn’t feel like I was completely in the wrong … “
INFO: what degree of wrong do you feel you were? And is that not worthy of an apology?
YTA 100%. If for nothing other than saying “it’s not my fault you got offended to her.” Someone who actually loved and cared for their partner would say “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings” or something else that’s a little more sincere. Also, don’t complain about something when you’re actively making the decision to keep doing it. You honestly need to do some self reflecting because you sound like a child
this has to be ai
You are on the wrong side of the 8th grade to be behaving this way toward your girlfriend. YTA