I will start off saying my husband has worked atleast half our marriage , but anyway I am the only one with an income and at that i still have to get help sometimes to even cover bills, but I still have to make sure my husband has cigarettes.
I tried to talk to him several times and tell him that we need to quit getting the cigarettes because any extra money I get can go to getting my vehicle fixed. I have to spend money on taxis and I walk where I can but things are slowly getting worse without a vehicle.
its already been sitting so long that not only does the computer need replaced, I need new breaks as well.
anytime I try to talk to him about it he acts like its ok but then stll will want the cigarettes when he is out.
well now its to the point where we are arguing heavy about it and I can not comprehend that I need any extra money to save to get my car fixed. He says im being unreasonable.
NTA, he shouldn’t be smoking anyway…
NTA, perfect time for him to quit his VERY expensive VERY unhealthy habit
NTA. You’re the only current income and you have more important things to spend your money on. Cigarettes are not an essential.
Is he unable to work right now for some reason?
NTA, if he wants cigarettes so bad, he can get a job
NTA smoking is a luxury for people who can afford to buy them.
If he is disabled and can’t work, he should quit smoking because it will.make his life harder. If he can work, tell him to go make the $5 a day or whatever it costs to smoke.
Nope. Cigarettes are a luxury not a necessity. Stop giving him money. Buy food for the house and pay bills but don’t give him any money for extras. He can get a job if he wants those things. If he’s on your account, open a separate account he doesn’t have access to.
“No” is a complete sentence. Stop buying the damn things.
NTA, but obviously smoking is an addiction. You might have more luck finding strategies to help him quit than just arguing about the money spent on them
Just stop buying them. If he wants cancer so bad he can go get them himself. Is there a reason he doesn’t have a job?
NTA. If he was an alcoholic, would you buy him booze? If he was a drug addict, would you buy him meth? Cigarettes are an addiction. One of the hardest addictions to break. I know. Quitting smoking was hard. If he really wants nicotine, he can get a job and pay for it himself. If you are low income and on Medicaid, your insurance might pay for nicotine patches or gum, and sometimes there are state programs who would pay for nicotine patches and gum.
One way to compromise is to buy a can of smoking tobacco and some rolling papers. That doesn’t cost as much as cigarettes because of tax laws. He can learn to roll his own, smoke a higher quality tobacco, and therefore require far fewer smokes to get his nicotine fix.
If he is immobile just say no. Let him quit cold turkey and after you get the car fixed, off you go.
NTA if he wants cigarettes he needs to get a job and pay for them. It’s that simple.
At my brokest, I would never have asked my partner to buy my cigarettes. I always paid for them myself. My addiction, my problem. NTA.
Remove his Access to your money. He needs to get a job if he wants to buy cigarettes