My sister keeps pressuring me to watch her huge energetic dog every time she has plans and says that since I work from home I am “basically free anyway,” but the truth is I am on calls nonstop and already struggle to stay focused, and her dog barks at everything, tries to chew wires, and needs constant attention. Last week she dropped the dog off without asking and I immediately drove it back to her office and said she needs to make proper arrangements like everyone else, and now she is calling me selfish and saying family is supposed to help family. I love her but I am tired of my home being treated like free daycare and I do not think being polite means letting people walk all over me, so am I the jerk for finally saying no.
Nta. She needs to stop being cheap.
Eww no. You are under no obligation to watch anyone’s dog just because you work from home and “are available”. If it was a well behaved dog and you AGREED then that would be a different story. NTA
NTA, What part of **work** from home doesn’t she understand? You are literally on the clock, and even if you weren’t, she is in no way entitled to your free time. She should have thought about this before getting a dog.
So many people can’t understand that work from home is work.. not lazy time chilling and watching tv.. they can’t wrap their head around it.
Many people are not bright
INFO:
How exactly did she drop the dog off without asking? Does she have a key to your place and snuck in with it?
She didn’t sneak in or anything, she just showed up in the morning with the dog and basically announced it was staying, and I stupidly said “okay” out of habit because I always help family, but the second I tried to work I realized it was not fine at all, the dog was loud and needy and I could not focus, so I changed my mind and brought him back because I never actually agreed beforehand and she never asked, she just assumed.
Family is supposed to help family. This is in all the AI posts.
Yeah that makes total sense because a lot of us grew up hearing that exact line from parents and grandparents, so of course it pops out naturally in posts, and it is weird that people jump straight to “AI wrote this” just because someone used a familiar phrase, since humans repeat the same sayings all the time without thinking about it, and if someone truly thinks a post is fake they can hit report instead of playing detective in the comments.
Dont worry I get called out for using em dashes sometimes. I mean where do you think AI got the idea from? From all the people online using them that they researched.
NTJ. Your sister is TJ here. Using you as a free dog sitter and not respecting your decisions. Tell your sister how the dog interferes with your work while there and it’s not on. She will have to find other arrangements
NTA you aren’t home doing nothing. You are working.
You don’t have a dog. She does. She needs to take care of her own dog and PAY a dogsitter.
Exactly, working from home is still working and you are not a free kennel just because your laptop is in your living room, so if she chooses to have a big energetic dog the responsibility stays with her and she can hire a sitter, ask a friend who is actually free, or adjust her plans instead of dumping the problem on you and calling it “family.”
NTA I work from home and I can’t even begin to tell you the amount of times friends and relatives have asked me to dog sit or just drop over because I’m home and they assume I do nothing all day. It’s one thing when it’s a quiet dog, who isn’t barking at every sound and doesn’t need to be walked every few hours. That’s impossible to deal with when you’re fielding work calls and need to be at your desk most of the day. Some people just don’t understand the concept of working from home. You are 100% NTA.
When you work from home, your house now becomes your office. Your sister couldn’t expect to come to an office building and drop off her dog. The same parameters apply. NTA.