So I 24M have a cousin 27M who constantly asks people in the family for money. This isn’t the first time he’s asked me multiple times before, and I’ve helped him out twice already. The problem is, he never pays back and always comes up with new excuses.
Last week, he called me saying he urgently needed money because of family issues. When I asked what exactly it was for, he got defensive and said I should just trust him. That didn’t sit right with me, so I told him I couldn’t help this time, especially since he hasn’t paid back what he already owes me.
Now some family members are calling me selfish and saying I should support him no matter what because we’re family. Others agree with me and say he’s just taking advantage.
I feel a bit guilty but at the same time, I don’t want to keep enabling him. Am I wrong for setting boundaries here, or am the ass hole?
NTA. Tell any family who thinks that he should be supported no matter what is welcome to do so. Next time he asks, tell him you were going to ask him for money. As a matter of fact, I’d try giving him the occasional call to remind him of his outstanding loans. Unless he’s totally shameless, that should stop him bothering you. At least that’s what worked on our uncle.
The family members calling you selfish should lend him money.
for real
They want you to give him money so they don’t have to.
Tell him to borrow from the bank. Tell your relatives to mind their own effing business
NTA have other relatives help
right, thank you
NTA
Don’t lend money to friends or family once you’ve been burned once.