I (30F) had a divorce last year. It was mutual, notting dramatic. I kept the engagement ring since I help pay for it (we split the cost because we’re young and we’re both on our first job). And honestly I just wasn’t ready to get rid of it yet. Even if it didn’t work out I still value the ring.
My younger sister (25F) just got engaged. Her fiance doesn’t make much money but he proposed with a really cute but simple ring. My sister recently asked if she could buy my engagement ring for a lower price since I’m not using it anymore. It would also save them money to upgrade her ring later on (they want to get a " nicer ring" later on).
I was a little shocked and told her no. I don’t wear it but I don’t want to sell it either. She said it’s weird and “emotionally unhealthy” that I’m holding onto a ring from a failed marriage. Now our parents are hinting I should just give or sell it to her because it would be a nice gesture , and better than sitting in a drawer. AITA?
nta it’s your ring not the family loaner and you don’t owe anyone a discount upgrade
Your mom can give her ring away. Or tell your dad to sell his car for cheap so she can trade it for a ring. NTA, no is a complete sentence.
NTA it’s your ring and your sis and fam are acting really entitled. Just because the marriage ended doesn’t mean that it didn’t shape you. It’s a keepsake and can be a reminder of the things you learned about yourself and about marriage.
Nobody is ever entitled to anything that rightfully belongs to someone else. Period end of story.
“No” is a complete and full sentence. If anyone continues to bring it up, repeat “I am not interested in selling my old ring and this will not be discussed further.”
Or just take it to a jeweler and have a necklace made out of the diamond/s and wear it around your family every time you see them.
Your parents should be discouraging little sis from getting married if her finances are such that she wants a ring but can’t afford it.
I agree she shouldn’t be getting married, but not because she can’t afford the ring she wants, but because she’s too immature to accept the ring she can afford.
NTA. No is no and they need to quit being so entitled. I’m a little petty so I would be asking why she wants a ring that was used in a failed marriage. Is she trying to jinx hers? And be sure to ask in front of parents and her fiance.
You helped with your own ring….why didn’t she?
Mom can give sis her rings to choose from.
NTA. Put it somewhere safe, locked up, so that it doesn’t get “lost.”
Nta. Your ring, your life, your choice. Having a sister does not mean it is your job to do things for her. If it’s emotionally unhealthy to keep you would think it would be emotionally unhealthy to use a ring from a failed marriage as the symbol of your love. Also why would you sell it at a lower price. If you do decide to sell if go see what it is worth and she can pay that. It’s not your fault her man does not make much money.
It’s weird and unhealthy to hang on to it, so let me buy it and wear it around you all the time…
NTA
NTA but honestly she said it’s weird to keep your engagement ring but it’s not weird to wear your sister’s engagement ring from her failed marriage? Your sister is entitled and frankly… weird.
That’s what I was thinking. No disrespect to OP, but why would anyone want a ring from a failed marriage- wouldn’t you think it’s unlucky?