You know what is ironic about this whole thing, we have air tags in our own kids shoes.
I like being tracked, I like it. I like knowing where my parents are and where my siblings are.
i may be the ass, but I am not getting rid of it. This is my hill to die on.
I have been in a car crash, I have been in situation that make me feel better to be tracked. this is my hill
my wife doesn’t have to get it but she doesn’t get to tell me to get rid of it on my phone
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I have been married to my wife for three years.
I grew up in a household that everyone has access to everyone’s location. My wife hates it and thinks it is an invasion of privacy. For this reason she doesn’t have life 360 and that is fine.
I personally still have life 360 and I like it. I like my sibling and parent being able to check up on me.
The problem happened over the holidays. We were driving back ( the roads were bad) from new years and our tire popped. It wasn’t a big deal.
I was outside changing it when my mom called me. She told me she noticed that I was on the side of the road for a while and was checking if everything by was all right. Or if we needed help.
I told her everything was fine and I was almost done changing the tire. I finished changing the tire and we were back on the road.
My wife and I got into an argument. She is pissed my mom called. She think it is creepy and doesn’t want her to know where we are. She wants me to get rid of the app.
I told her no, that it is my choice to have it and I like my family to be able to see my location. I actually found it sweet that she called.
She called me a mommas boy and this argument has continued since. I am standing firm on not getting rid of it and that my mom didn’t do anything wrong
edit: this is the first time in years my mom has called becuase of life 360. she was watching becuase the roads were bad
my wife has known the whole time that my side of the family using it. it was not a surprise
Maybe The Asshole. Is the argument about the argument? Is your mother intrusive in other ways?
+1 to this. How much is your mom watching your location if she noticed you were on the side of the road? Does she insert herself in other ways? Does she bring up what she sees on your Life360 as a common part of conversation?
I tend to side with the wife here… she’s who you should be prioritizing.
As a married woman this would give me the ick so badly. It’s weird. YTA, cut the apron strings
I was married to a man whose family does this with iPhones. I refused to get an iPhone the whole time we were married. If you were going on a trip and wanted to share while driving that would be one thing. Just checking randomly? Creepy. If I want to know where my family is, I call. I agree with the wife saying it is an invasion of privacy.
YTA. Your mom keeps checking the app regularly enough to immediately notice that your car is on the side of the road? That’s not having it just in case. That’s her keeping the app open and keeping tabs. That’s at the core of your wife’s distaste here.
It’s one thing to have it on when you’re alone, but you’re allowing your mom to invade the space and time you’re sharing with your wife privately, and forcing her to be watched as well.
NTA if you only had it on when you were without your wife, but she’s repeatedly told you she doesn’t want your mom to follow her, and you would rather placate your mother than your wife, so yes, YTA.
I think there is a reasonable qualifier though. Mom was checking the app because she knew they were traveling and that the roads were bad. That actually seems like a very acceptable time to be checking. What if they’d had an accident and gone off the road? I would suggest that they need to have a discussion with mom about when and how much she *actually* checks the app. Had it been months and this was just because of the travel + weather? Or does she regularly check it daily, etc? Circumstances and frequency matter.
Not going to lie it’s a little Egh that your mom has lo jack on you and you’re a fully grown married person. Maybe if you traveled extensively for work or had some safety concerns then it would make better sense. But for your mom and other family to see, as an example,oh he’s at some random hotel and call to make sure you’re ok…when maybe you’re trying to have a romantic night w/ your spouse…no.
I get your wife’s perspective. It’s almost like did I marry a whole independent adult or did I marry a more grown kid under his families thumb 24/7. Sorry to be so blunt but when you boil it down that’s kind of what it is.
I don’t know of any location app that alerts someone when you’ve been pulled over for a few minutes, which means your Mother was likely just stalking your location obsessively, watching you. And while you’re an adult and are free to allow that if you choose, when you’re with your wife, SHE is being tracked obsessively too and she didn’t consent to that, so YTA.
Also, if it were me, that whole experience would “give me the ick” as the kids say.
Yeah I feel like this aspect is being glossed over here. Why is your mom watching you this closely? I could see having this in case of emergency or something but I have a feeling this is part of a pattern of behavior the wife is not a fan of.
This is not true. With life 360, it tells you when a driver completed a drive. So it’s safe to assume the mom was alerted a drive was completed but the timing didn’t make sense so she looked and saw. You are able to see how long someone has been stopped. My siblings and I have it with it eachother as well as all our kids. It’s not stalk them but safety.
Mom of adult kids here. The only time that we turn on Life360 is when we’re traveling alone outside of the US.
Having someone constantly tracking your movements is invasive, as your wife has suggested.
Your Mother had to be routinely checking the app in order for her to notice your icon hadn’t moved in a while. So yes, that is a tad overbearing.
Your wife has a point, it’s invasive and it means they’re tracking her by default too. Maybe loosen the child leash a little and understand you’re an adult and this is weird.
You are a grown man who is married and is choosing your mom over your wife in what your wife feels is an invasion of privacy. Pretty sure this isn’t the only thing that caused her to call you momma’s boy. Sure this instance was one where your mom may have been worried if something was wrong, but does she question you about other things she sees on Life 360? Sorry, YTA and while it may be your choice to allow your mom access to your location, it isn’t your wife’s and when she is with you should both have to agree to sharing location to be okay.
I’d bet the farm that this isn’t the only instance of your mother being invasive during your marriage.