I (25M) let one of my closets friend borrow my car a few times in the past. I asl of him one THING don’t let anyone else drive it. He agreed every time.
Last week he asked again saying he just needed it to run errands. Later that night I one of our mural friends Instagram story where someone else was clearly driving my car, music blasting, speeding on the highway. When I confronted him he had the nerve to say I was overreacting and that nothing happened so what’s the problem?
I told him he’s no longer allowed to use my car at all. He got upset, said I was being dramatic, and accused me of valuing my car over our friendship. A couple mutual friends said I should let it slide since there was no damage.
I stood my ground and said trust matters more than favors.
AITA for refusing to lend him my car again
NTA. Your car, your rules.
Plus you should never lend your car to someone unless they can afford to repair or replace it if something happens, so keep that in mind as well.
NTA.
It’s not a cup of sugar, it’s a car. Most people have one …. Maybe two of those.
Tell him you certainly do value your livelihood over a friendship.
NTA. It’s honestly super weird to borrow a car to then let someone else borrow the car. You let him borrow it multiple times with literally one condition, he didn’t respect that. It doesn’t matter if there was no damage, would they have paid for it if there was?
Of course you’re NTA. Nothing happened <this time>. If there was an accident, your insurance would not cover anything. You could be on the hook for anything from repairs to a wrongful death lawsuit. Do not let anyone drive your car who is not covered by your insurance. Ever.
NTA,
You shouldn’t let ANYONE not on your insurance drive your car.
I worked in the Auto Industry for 15 years. After a house, the next biggest purchase a person makes is usually a car. If anything happened while you weren’t driving or even in the damn car, your insurance can find a multitude of ways not to pay you. AND your insurance will get raised as well.
Ask him if he can pay the full price of they car if it gets in an accident, and insurance won’t pay? Can he even pay for any damages if just a panel gets dented?
In the real world, people don’t lend their cars out. Your friends are taking advantage of you.
NTA where do people live that you can just randomly drive someone else’s car. He wouldn’t be on the insurance so what happens if he did wreak it. Would he pay for that of course not.
Y’all stop loaning people your cars. NTA.
NTA
Like wtf?!
It’s not just that another person was driving the car.
It was that they were not using it to run errands which they said they needed it for, but that they were using it to party.
It’s that they were speeding.
It’s that they were blasting the music which clearly creates distractions.
It’s that they were filming all this and broadcasting it to social media, in your car…
When confronted, your “friend” said you were overreacting.
He is using emotional manipulation, saying you value your own car over this friendship. So he’s willing to try to pull on your feelings to get his way.
Yeah, no. This person would never borrow anything from me ever again, not even a rickety bicycle.
Oh wow, just because this time around they didn’t crash YOUR car into the back of a family killing several of the people in YOUR car as well as killing the family in the other car, I guess it was all fine?
F these people. They are NOT friends. Continue to associate with them at your own peril.
Do you even know what your insurance says about lending the car out to others? Or would that person need their own insurance, or would they need to be written onto your insurance beforehand? Are you still insured if the person driving your car is speeding, or maybe has too many people in the car, or maybe none of them are wearing seatbelts?
Not long ago (11 December 2023) there was a terrible crash with some young guys in Coedely in Wales. There were six people in a small Audi (A1), the driver (aged 18) was drinking. The driver died and two of his five passengers also died (the deaths were an 18 and 19 year old). The car was going 51 miles/h in a 20 miles/h zone and crashed into a bus and split in half. They apparently can’t say if they were wearing seatbelts, but the A1 has seats for max 5 people (some models only have 4 seats) so the sixth person in the car (the 5th passenger) would definitely not have had a seatbelt. This is literally what your friend wants to do. With your car.
Absolutely NTA. Lending someone your vehicle is risky enough. They have no right to then let someone else operate it
NTA, he’s a dumbass and can’t see past his egos. You also need better friends, at 25.
If the entirety of your friendship hangs on him being able to use your car he isn’t your friend.
NTA
First of all, he lied to you.
Second, he violated your only condition.
Third, if there had been an accident, you would have been SCREWED with your insurance company.
4th, he was dismissive when you called him out on it
5th, he tried to turn it back on you
He’s not a friend. He’s a person who wants to use your car and thinks you’re a sucker. NTA.
NTA. What he did was selfish and reckless.