My friends wedding was in November. Her cousin who firstly assumed she be maid of honor without clarifying with her if this was the case and the cousin. she was not my friends maid of honor; she made the actual man of honor and the maid of honor both feel very uncomfortable and made sure it was known that she wanted to be the maid of honor. She didn’t show to the engagement party, Bach party, and only the shower which she got wildly drunk at. Ordered dress late and refused to get it altered, and her husband who was not in the wedding party bought a $800 suit to wear to the wedding. Context : state park wedding, the wedding party was only in dress shirts and pants, the groom and the parent were to be in suits only. At the end the cousin was asked not to attend the wedding if they could not respect the brides wishes. Cousin stated her husband wanted to “look the best”
NTA your friend dodged a bullet, sounds like the cousin was trying to make the whole wedding about herself and her husband lmao who tf spends $800 on a suit to upstage people at someone else’s wedding
In a frigging park!
Cousin is psycho. NTA.
There’s no question here.
NTA, I think your cousin showed a blatant disregard for boundaries and exhibited pretty rude behaviour.
NTA. You respect the wedding dress code. It isn’t that hard. It’s not cousin‘s husband’s day, he can “look the best” at his own wedding.
INFO. Your post is unclear.
*At the end the cousin was asked not to attend the wedding if they could not respect the brides wishes.*
Who was it who asked the cousin not to attend?
What was YOUR role in this conflict?
You said you’re a friend of the bride. Did you personally have anything to do with the organizing of the wedding, or with asking the cousin not to attend?
NTA (Not The Asshole). A wedding is about the couple, not a fashion show for the cousin’s husband. It’s clear she has ‘Main Character Syndrome.’ If she can’t respect the dress code or the bride’s choices, she doesn’t deserve to be there. You did the right thing by protecting your friend’s day.
I’m a bit confused by the wording here, but from what I’m understanding…your friend kicked her cousin out of the wedding because the cousin was being immature about you being the maid of honor?
If this is the case, you are NTA for two reasons. First, you didn’t kick your friend’s cousin out of the wedding, your friend did. That is an issue between the two of them. Second, if you had direct influence on your friend’s decision, it is still reasonable to kick out a guest who is not being respectful to the couple or their guests.
NTA. cousin is the asshole for making everything about her. plus the husband egging it on?? fr??
INFO what is the relevance of the cousin’s husband’s planned wedding attire, especially as they were asked not to attend?
What??? This makes absolutely no sense!
NTA.