Last year I moved out of the apartment I shared with a roommate and till now she’s asking me to pay for the last two months I she claims I was still at the apartment.
So I opened up a studio for my work September last year and for the first time I missed giving my part of the rent for October on the day I was supposed to cus I spent money prepping my studio. I discussed this with her and she told me she had paid. I thanked her cus I thought she sympathized with me, I didn’t know she was planning to kick me out.
During that period I spent a lot of time away from home, I was still setting up my studio and sometimes I finished late so I just spent the night there and start again the next morning. The first two days I stayed away from home when I got back I met her and her boyfriend, I said nothing cus sometimes he randomly stops by and spends hours before leaving which is something I spoke to her about in the past but nothing changed so I let it slide for peace. The second day I went back home I met him alone in the house, when my roommate returned I spoke to her cus it’s one thing for me to return and meet you two and another thing entirely to come back and meet him alone in the house. The only thing she said to me was “why don’t you move out” which she’s claiming now was a joke and I should’ve known cus she was laughing about it. This happened again when I got back to the apartment at night and met her boyfriend alone in the house and he had things of his there that’s when I knew that maybe yes I should move out. I went back to the studio and spent the night. The next day I went back and picked up few of my things and left.
Since that day, I only went there once or twice a week to get what I needed, Sometimes I didn’t for one full week. I was finally able to save up and get an apartment which I move into on the first week of January and that’s the first time I called and asked that I pay for November and December cus I never officially told her I was moving out. Mind you she never called the whole time I never went to the apartment she only did now cus she found out I got my own place and she told me she broke up with her boyfriend.
I’ve told her I can’t pay cus she asked me to move out. If she wants I’ll give her half of what my share was for October cus she was already planning to kick me out and pay her for everyday I stepped foot in the apartment after that and for the space a few of my things took up in the apartment, things I’m not even taking from there cus I got new ones but she’s insisting I pay the full amount. AITA for refusing to pay her?
YTA. IF your STUFF was still there, you were occupying the apartment and you owe the rent.
YTA. Judge Judy would rip you apart.
You don’t pay full rent in October cause you decided, on your own, no convo, your studio was more important than your lease. You don’t tell her till literally the day its due, giving her absolutely no notice. She covers you, you don’t even mention when you will pay her back.
Later, you don’t take her up on her offer to move out, or to talk about it. You just start moving things but not everything, and you start disappearing. Not only did you not tell her you were moving out, you never actually moved out! You still have things there!! Not only is she not required to trash what you leave, SHE CANT!!
Now we learn not only was BF not moving in, he isn’t even BF anymore and you want to be forgiven your lease cause **she didn’t call you??** You were the one who needed to speak!
YTA.
What, you thought that because she took care of your half of the rent when you didn’t pay, that she was just going to…eat the cost and let you stash your stuff there while she paid the full rent for the apartment? *Yes,* you need to pay your rent for the time your stuff was in the apartment, good lord. She probably let her boyfriend move in because she couldn’t afford to keep covering your half of the rent by herself.
And she didn’t kick you out. You failed to pay rent, started spending most of your time elsewhere while still keeping your stuff in the apartment, and then came back and complained about her having her boyfriend there while you were at your studio…and then moved your stuff out based on a single comment she made while you were complaining.
YTA
If you did not give her notice and your stuff was still there, you are responsible to pay rent.
You should immediately send her a check for everything you owe from October until 30 days AFTER you formally told her IN WRITING of your intention to move out.
ESH but mostly YTA. The fact that you had your stuff there and were „coming in and out“ doesn’t really make it a clear break. Technically the time between when you first left her place and got your own apartment in January, your home base was still at hers, right? you kept your stuff there, came by everyweek, still had the keys etc. doesn’t matter if it’s a slow move out. I’ve been in your situation before, being kicked out of a flat by the friend, it sucks but it still doesn’t justify you getting out of your share of the rent for a room that had your stuff in it and you accessed weekly. I get why she’s asking for it. Lesson learned to set a clearer boundary next time. Also, you still owe her money, so you should pay that back too. She’s also TA for also failing to set up a clear boundary more proactively.
Yta
You lived there and didn’t pay for 3 months no wonder she wanted your freeloading butt out
YTA. You might have been able to get away with this if you had initially taken ALL of your things out of the space but because you left things there and still had access, you are obligated for some of the rent. The only counter you might have is the split since her boyfriend had moved in while your stuff was still there.
Very clear YTA. You don’t ”open up” about moving out. You communicate with each other and decide what date the last day is and have your shit moved out at the latest that day.
This almost sound fake because it sounds so ludicrous.
YTA – What kind of bs delusion have you convinced yourself of that you don’t have to pay? You missed a rent payment entirely which roommate covered, then you just decided to not pay any more rent even though you still had stuff there and still went back from time to time?
YTA…if your stuff was there, then you were there. You owe her rent. Setting up a studio is not an excuse for not paying your rent.
YTA and I think a lot of what you say is just coping or excuses.
I can’t really say what’s fair here because I don’t necessarily feel like you’re a reliable narrator. Best case scenario even if everything you say is true, sounds to me like you never communicated your intention to move out. If you were on the lease I think you owe it to her to pay,. especially for the one she covered for you.
Doesn’t really seem like a bad roommate if she did that, does it? She did a nice thing for you. I’m not saying what she did with her BF was cool but it isn’t like you don’t know the guy. Clearly, he wasn’t moved in. You saw some of his stuff? Holy copium batman.
If you aren’t on the lease you aren’t legally required to pay her anything. Either way to me it sounds like you should pay.
YTA – You tried your best to vilify your roommate, and honestly part way through I thought I was on your side. But nobody can be dense enough to think just showing up less to the house, while still having your possessions there qualifies as moving out..
YTA – if you’re stuff is there, you’re there. And pulling all this crap AFTER telling her you can’t make rent because you spent it on your “studio”? Come on.
YTA, you didnt actually move out or you might have a case. Moving out means you take all of your stuff. You owe that back rent.