My wife and I are both 37, and her sister is getting married soon. My wife has been very involved in the whole wedding planning thing.
She’d been saying that her wedding day will be the "Best day of her life" like it was for her when we got married. Last time she said that, we were at home, and I responded by saying "right." Because of my response, she asked if it wasn’t the same for me in like a joking way, and I said probably not. I mean it was a good day, but I’d probably put the kid #1 and kid #2 being born and probably some other personal accomplishments above that. So wedding day is probably at about 4th or 5th specifically speaking.
My wife seemed pretty offended by that, saying that the kids wouldn’t be here without her (which is true) and she has no personal accomplishments that are above us getting married. I reminded her that’s *her* though and she actually wasn’t in the mood for talking anymore.
AITA? I think i shouldve just said yes and moved on with my life because she’s seriously annoyed with me for that.
Not an asshole but a dumb ass lol
White lies exist for a reason
Dumb of him to admit that. While he is free to have his opinions, his wife has a reason to be offended. Deciding to get married is one of life’s biggest and most life changing decisions. Putting it below having children is one thing, but To put that below personal accomplishments is somewhat telling of how op prioritizes his spouse.
But it wasn’t deciding to get married; it was their wedding day, specifically. My wedding day wasn’t the best day of my life, either, although I am very deeply in love with my husband and am very happy in my marriage. That doesn’t have anything to do with how he prioritizes her as a spouse, just his experience of that specific day.
BUT he was still stupid for wording it this way because it’s SOOOOOO easy to misinterpret this and get offended. For her it’s about the sentiment of being married and not the literal day.
YTA.
“Of course it is, honey.” Don’t be so finicky about superlatives.
That should have been an inside thought. YTA
That’s pretty dumb to say. YTA
Dude.
you can’t imagine why she’d be hurt by that? really? you couldn’t elaborate and say something about how the day was great but it’s the marriage/her you value most? come on man.
You need to expand on “personal milestones”. Because like if you think getting a job promotion or even graduating college was higher on the list for best day ever than your wedding… that’s kinda sad and may that kind of love never find me. I get the birth of your children. However, as another comment stated, those are inside thoughts, and saying them outline is just kinda mean. Soft YTA. Not for your feelings but for not being able to read the room.
Look I totally get what you are saying. I would maybe have said “Getting married to you was the best decision that I ever made and it has led to so many happy days, it is impossible to rank them all. I love you.”
YTA for saying a random personal accomplishment would rank higher… you can’t even think of the personal accomplishment, yet you just know it’s better than your wedding day? You’re purposefully being a contrarian.
Your kids, sure. The other stuff is BS.
A random accomplishment *that he can’t even think of right now* smh
Ah, you’re one of those people. You knew what answer they wanted to hear, and there was no harm in just saying that, but you just couldn’t help yourself. You like to pat yourself on being “honest” but the reality is that you’re an asshole. I strongly recommend that when you buy a couch, don’t buy one because it looks good, buy one that’s comfortable enough sleep on.
We can shut the thread down, this is 100% complete and correct, no notes. We’re done here