I feel like I’m losing my mind right now so I apologize in advance if it’s unclear. For the sake of this post, and for privacy reasons, My mom is Linda, 52F, my first sister is Jade, 27F, my second sister is Bella, 25F, my brother is Luka, 20M, my dad is John, 55M, my friend is Eric, 17M, and my brother in law is Kyle, 27M. I am 16F.
So, my birthday was yesterday. The day had gone by well until it was time to go to dinner. You see, in my family, the celebrant always gets taken out to eat with other people they pick. It’s simple, the celebrant chooses who they want to join them, and then they go out to a place of their choice.
Naturally, as it was my birthday, I figured I would be given that privilege too. The plan was for it to be just Jade, Kyle, Eric, and Myself. Just four people were supposed to go, including me. Unfortunately, that plan fell through as Kyle was running late, so Linda decided to tag along.
I had already been a little irked because Linda had been telling me that I’m wasting Eric’s time, but I let it go. I had already told Eric the situation and he understood and told me not to worry about it. We were about to head out the door when Linda stopped me, and asked me: “Aren’t you going to invite the others?” Not wanting to get into the reasons why I didn’t want Bella there, I caved.
The whole family minus John ended up going. I was irritated but didn’t make a big deal since it was my birthday. Somehow, Jade and Bella started talking crap about the other, which ended up in Bella crying and running to her room saying in a babyish tone that no one loves her and that we all hate her, which made Luke and Linda go comfort her. A while later, we finally got to the restaurant and sat down and Bella started crying and saying the same stuff. AGAIN. Adding in that she’d be better off dead. Everyone started babying her (she has a fetish), so I started crying, in front of everyone.
I managed to calm down before we left the restaurant because I had to go get my cake. (they didn’t plan on buying me one) I get my cake and headed home, and yet again Bella started crying. I had enough at this point and told her to pull it together that she’s not ruining another birthday by making it about her, and she left. I had subpar cake, a present that had no thought put into it, then when I finally got out of my bathroom from crying, I told my sisters and mom that I was extremely disappointed in them and sad that they couldn’t have given me just one day about myself, and that they could behave on other people’s birthdays but mines. I was crying by this point and everyone tried telling me it wasn’t their fault and so I screamed: “YOU ALL FUCKING RUINED MY BIRTHDAY, DO YOU WANT A COOKIE OR SOMETHING?!?”
They all got offended and now Bella is telling everyone that I hate her, and want her dead, Jade is acting like she did nothing wrong and blaming me for being ungrateful for the gift she gave me, and Linda is also blaming me for everything.
AITA?
NTA. You have a shitty, narcissistic family. Only two more years…hang tight and then GTFOutta there.
Yeah OP needs to get out of that toxic family ASAP. Staying with people who bring out the worst in you will only result in harm to mental health and overall well-being.
OP- when you turn 18, never look back.
NTA but the weird age regression stuff with the adult siblings in your family is being enabled and reinforced by all of your family. I feel bad for you, while you’re asking about your birthday. This is probably just a wash and repeat of other times.
ESH. Your whole family is insufferable
Exactly, every single person in this family sounds insufferable, OP included
Op sounds like a 16 year old. And everyone failed her in this instance except Eric.
A 16 year old isn’t necessary responsible for being insufferable, but they definitely can still be insufferable.
NTA. Aren’t energy vampires the worst?
You have a mighty strange family tradition of exclusion. Be that as it may, your sisters all need to grow up. I feel sorry for your dad. Poor guy that was singled out as the only one not going. However, I’d bet he was just tired of the drama and looked forward to a quiet dinner sans children.
Why do you feel bad for dad? He got a relaxing night at home!
I had to go back and look at the ages again. Wild that all these people are at least in their 20s and acting like actual children, and here you are at 16 managing to have more composure for most of the evening than all of them combined.
NTA. I can’t fault you for finally popping off. They were being absurd, and they all desperately need to grow up.
You all sound dysfunctional.
Oh my god it’s a family of children. I skipped the names/ages at first but had to go back to check because the way everyone was acting I thought you were all middle schoolers. Fucking 20’s? You all sound like brats, this whole thing was annoying to read.
ESH.
It sounds like you are all exhausting. ESH no wonder your father didn’t go.