For context, I’m a part time cat sitter, and I have a kinda-new boyfriend (it’s been a couple of months, but most of our mutual friends don’t know)
A few days ago, I came back from my main job and found an impressively massive cat turd on my white bed sheets. It happened before so it’s not that big of a deal for me, but I still asked my boyfriend to spend the night at his place. It was unexpected for him so he asked why, and my response was a picture of the "crime" with a 😅 emoji.
Upon arrival I realized that my photo (funny-ish in my opinion) had actually triggered him. He acted cold and I almost felt he was disgusted by me. I ended up barely sleeping that night and felt kinda pissed off at him.
The next day I sent a message to my girl friends with the story (and the picture !) and they were mostly laughing and calling him soft.
AITA ?
Did he actually realise it was cat poop or did he think it was human?
Omg.. this.. I was just gonna say I would find that funny.. but didn’t think he may of thought you had done it. Lol..
INFO: Do you mean actually triggered or are you using it in the watered-down popular version that just means “slightly inconvenienced”?
If you just made him slightly uncomfortable you are definitely NTA, his reaction is over the top and he should not have been such a baby about it.
Info needed: how many times has this happened, because it is not normal cat behavior
I’m not sure if it’s so much the picture or possibly him thinking a pet pooping on his partner’s bed (especially if it’s a regular occurrence) is a turn off. If the pic doesn’t bother you or your friends that’s fine, but if it bothers him, that’s also fine. Some people don’t want to just get an unsolicited poop pic.
I’d say it’s one thing if he’s like incapable of helping to clean up, like I’ve had a guy tell me that he refuses to clean up animal puke/pee/poop (like he would sooner leave it all day on the floor and walk around it than clean it up) and I think that’s a bit ridiculous. However not wanting to be sent an unsolicited pic of it, especially since you don’t know what he’s doing in the moment, I think is valid.
Slight YTA
Question: so you’re currently pet sitting, and then left the pets that you’re getting paid to care for alone for the night?
Have you met cats? They don’t need constant supervision at night.
You know, it’s even worse cause I also leave for my main job 😀
The point of hiring me is to have your cat cuddled and fed 2-3 times a day minimum, and not zero if he stays alone while the owner is on vacation
NTA
But if a newish boyfriend sent me a photo of poop I would absolutely get the ick and idk if it would be recoverable.
It’s like, why do you think I would find any enjoyment out of that? You can tell me what happened but I don’t want a photo.
It just reminds me of all the people that take photos of their poop in toilets and send it to their friends.
I’m happy this isn’t another plane seat story tho hahah. The wild posts are my favorite here (like that knife poop cutter man)
NAH – but I’m not saying that’s a totally normal thing you did.
I can just imagine your boyfriend’s perspective.
Oh you want to “sleep over” I might tidy up, make the place smell nice, make myself look good.
“*Check my phone*” oh she has sent me a picture of literal shit.
Don’t get me wrong have two cats and I’m 100% used to it. I still wouldn’t want a picture sent to me.
Might just have dulled the vibe a bit, but that’s just me.
This is my take as well. Seeing literal shit on the bed of someone you’re in the early stages of dating is a definite vibe killer.
I would not be impressed if I recieved a poop photo. It is just gross and not funny. However, worse than the photo is OP doubling down instead of just apologising and not doing it again. It is such a stupid, immature reaction to your partner not liking poop pics. It would not inconvenience your life in any way to never send another poop pic to your bf. But instead you are mocking him to your friends and on Reddit asking for validation. I might be able to get past the poop pic but combined with doubling down? I would be breaking up because I just don’t need that in my life. YTA
Disgusting.
YTA – I petsit all the time and have never ever once sent a picture of any “crime” the pets I watch commit. Sure, if a pet poops/pees/hurls a hairball I’ll let the owner know (and clean it up) but I’d never send a picture. You could have very easily said “Hey can I stay over? Fluffy pooped in the bed and the sheets are still in the washer.” Now, poop pic is a faux pas that could have easily been remedied by apologizing, but doubling down and laughing at him with your friends is really where YTA. If I was your new bf and I found out you were laughing at me behind my back with your friends about being grossed out by a picture of literal shit I’d be seriously reconsidering the relationship.
YTA First you don’t send anyone poop except it is something you both agreed on.
Then let’s see it from his side: His gf asked if she can stay over. He thinks “ooooh, she misses me” so he asked a taunting “why?” to hear sonething like “because i want to see you so bad right now” and when he hears the ping of his phone and thinks he received a nice message of his gf… shit is on his screen.