So in school we’re currently doing a volleyball unit, and I’m… not so good. My friend (we’ll call her Lucy) kept playfully making fun of me, but I, like, didn’t really find it funny. I repeatedly asked her to stop, didn’t make fun of her when she messed up a serve. Eventually, I couldn’t handle it and shouted something along the lines of “CAN YOU SHUT UP?! I REPEATEDLY ASKED YOU TO STOP IT! I DIDN’T MAKE FUN OF YOU WHEN YOU FUCKED UP! WHY WON’T YOU LEAVE ME ALONE?” directly in her face. I walked out of the gym, really upset, and I’m still upset about it, but I also feel guilty for lashing out. Was I justified?
FYI: We’ve made up, but I’m still upset.
super super light YTA, like almost NTA. valid crashout, but its not nice to yell at your friends like that. I think give yourself some time to cool off, then try to have a real conversation with her about it. apologize for yelling, but assert your boundaries. you did ask her repeatedly to stop, and even if she thought everything was playful, she should have stopped when you asked. really not cool of her.
Think over what your friendship with her is like. If she’s typically understanding, nice, and fun, then hopefully she takes the conversation well and apologizes herself. If she is constantly crossing your boundaries in this way, or blows up the conversation, might need to reevaluate the friendship. but hopefully it doesnt come to that!
She’s normally great, and our friendship means a lot to me.
thats great! sometimes we run into bumps like this with our friends, but what’s the most important in patching everything up is that both parties are willing to listen to the other and be considerate of them. im glad to see that you two made up. it’s okay if youre still upset! it seems like she was accidentally poking at a really sore spot for you. id say just try not to let the feelings fester, and if a situation like this comes up again, assert your boundaries and feelings in a calm but clear and firm manner. 🙂
NTA. You asked nicely, she didn’t stop. Sometimes, especially with people still in school, it takes a lot to get their attention and make them remember. As long as she apologized \*and stops doing it\*, ok, it was just normal teenaged short attention span.
If she keeps doing it now, she’s not really your friend.
NTA
Sometimes you have no other option than to do something dramatic. You asked nicely multiple times for her to stop doing it. Jokes like that are only funny if the other person is genuinely laughing. Otherwise, it’s just bullying.
Also, I understand not being good at volleyball. I was a total klutz in school and the ball spent more time on my face than it did anywhere else. Thankfully no one was mean to me about it, and it would have been very hurtful if they were.
NTA. You told her to stop. If you had just gone off out of nowhere, it would be one thing. She knew it was getting to you, and persisted. She had it coming. She needs to apologize to you.