So, I am a F (25) and I had several friends I was relatively close with in my workplace, but two who specifically gave me the spark to come to work to begin with, let’s name them A and B. A and I were like a team, we used to figure things out together and help everybody around us, while B and I were like two peas in a pod, always knew each other well even though we all met not long ago.
Here comes the problem, A gives me intel that was specifically mentioned not to be told to B on a random day. Yet I decided it would only be best if B knew because my gut feeling said that it’s only right if B knew about this (can’t disclose). So I disclose it to B and it begins the saga of now A and B not talking anymore. I decide to take B’s side however knowing that now I look like a snitch and shouldn’t have said or done anything, when A used to tell me everything that happened with and how they felt about B, I used to screenshot those texts and send it to B just to show them A’s view, but to A I just gave intel without providing any form of solid evidence.
Soon all hell broke loose and now I’m not in good terms with either because A looks at me like an asshole and due to a misunderstanding and fallout B disclosed everything I mentioned about A to A.
AITA?
YTA. We need more info about what the Intel is, but you are in the middle of a mess and it sounds like all your doing. You are lying, telling secrets, talking shit behind your friends back, taking screenshots and sending them to the other friend. This is mean girls shit. Grow up. No wonder they both don’t like you anymore
Don’t know the full context but to me you seem like the A-hole. 1) you were clearly told not to mention this to B but you did so anyway. 2) You sent screenshots of what A said about B to B. That’s messy as hell. Would help if we knew the full context but from here sorry but you’re not looking good
YTA. And you’re also very unprofessional. You treated your colleagues as if you were high school buddies. It seems immature.
You don’t give a lot of information, but what I can gather is you were going back and forth stirring the pot.
You are not at work to gossip.
I don’t see any way you are not in the wrong here. YTA unless the context missing is really surprising.
YTA. You gossiped to B when A specifically asked you not to. You inserted yourself into the situation and now want to appear innocent and as if it’s A and B’s fault. You told B something you shouldn’t have.
There’s no misunderstanding. You’re deliberately playing them off against each other. YTA
Grow up
I’m not understanding why you’re saying B is in the wrong but anytime you take screenshots of convos and send them around you’re causing a messy situation – so I’m going YTA but maybe with good intent? This is kinda hard to follow with it so vague as to what actually happened.
Girl, you know YTA.
YTA, grow up, stop gossiping.
YTA and on top of it you’ve proven you can’t be trusted with anything.
You deserve to be dumped by this entire group because of this. Grow up.
YTA. And you should know it
Let’s recap: A told you something in confidence. You broke A’s trust and snitched to B. It sounds like this was a repeated occurrence. And now you’re upset that A’s not talking to you because you (repeatedly?) broke their confidence?
If you’re older than 12 you know that’s not the way relationships work, and therefore YTA. If you’re 12 or younger, get off Reddit, it’s not good for you.
YTA and deserve the fallout. You act like a middle schooler
YTA for being a gossip, unless you decide to spill what this “intel” was and someone was actively in danger. Otherwise you just seem like a shit stirrer.