I (19F) have been living with my mom for about a year after I graduated high school. They didn’t have space for me here, so I had to move into the office we have in the house. Which is right next to the kitchen and doesn’t have a door, just a curtain they put up. I was ok with that for a while, until I realized that I can hear literally everything that happens in the house at all times. Being in the next room over from the kitchen, there’s noise in my room constantly. At some point, I found out that my mom has a car in the parking lot that she hasn’t driven for about 5 years. It stopped running, and would cost a lot of money to fix, so she plans on scrapping it whenever she has the time. I realized that would be pretty perfect for me to get some alone time away from all the chaos in the house. My mom found out I had been coming outside to her car to sit and chill, and freaked out. She kept telling me not to go out there again, but she won’t tell me why. It’s always “because I said so”. The car hasn’t run for years, and she keeps saying she’s going to get rid of it when she has a chance. I feel like I’m in the wrong here, but I get absolutely no privacy or time to myself in this house. I think I know what the verdict will be, but I figured I’d get a second opinion on this.
YTA
It is not your property and the owner told you NO.
No is a complete sentence and she is not required to provide you with an explanation. Respect the owner of the property.
You not having privacy is on you and just because you WANT something, does not ENTITLE you to use other people’s belongings against their wishes.
Do what you need to do to get out.
I mean it’s her car and she’s telling you to not use it. The fact that it doesn’t work is irrelevant. Is her car.
NTA, but mom’s reaction is disturbing. Might be something wrong with that car….
(“there’s a body in the trunk I ain’t dealt with yet… whoops”)
NTA in my opinion. It is her car tho. Did you not live with your mom before?
….she got a dead body or some kinda stash in the car?
NTA, she’s definitely hiding something in that car or it’s literally a biohazard, but living in a curtained kitchen office is the real nightmare here.
NTA. Just tell her, “ mom, that’s a weird a hill to die on.”
She’s probably either hiding something in the car, or doesn’t like the optics of you sitting in it. People might assume, you’re doing something illicit. And she doesn’t like the way it looks. But also, your 19, so maybe think about new roommates, your an adult now, and your living conditions are entirely in your control. How you choose to control them now will determine the rest of your life.
YTA. Ira not yours. Cars are not a toy. Also the way you drip with resentment almost in your post because of where your room is. But sounds like otherwise your parents treat you ok and don’t charge rent? If it’s that bad then you are going to have to get your own space. At your age and likely income you need to come to terms that you will likely have to share space with someone for a few years though
“drip with resentment”…?
I dont see it at at all…
YTA for doing something she specifically told you not to. It doesn’t matter if you think that you need more privacy. If you don’t like your living arrangements then find someplace else to live but don’t trample all over boundaries that were set for you.
NAH if you keep doing it, then you’d be an AH. There are a couple of reason I can think of why she wouldn’t want you out there, but she’s asked you not to.
For your privacy, is there something else you can do? A public library? A pop-up tent in a nearby park? Walks around the block? Or maybe you can get an accordion door or something installed to allow you the feeling of better in house privacy.
YTA. Is your mom hiding something? Probably, but it is still her car that she is allowed to do whatever she’d like with it. If you want privacy, you can see if it is okay to install a door in the office.
murder car murder car murder car
go in there with a UV torch
murder car