Me and my friend recently got into an brief disagreement about why I was being so silent on a call. I was focused on my other issues (as seen in the main apology text), and when he asked, I told him "I am a bit distracted right now, because I’m having like 3 conversations at once trying to calm all three of them down.". He asked who they were, to which I instinctively replied with "I’m not fucking telling you that shit." which I pretty quickly realized how harsh that came out, and when I tried apologizing saying "Sorry, my brain is overstimulated at the moment, and that just came out without thought." however, he cut me off before I could even finish the word overstimulated when he replied with "No, since you want to be a fucking DICK about it, I don’t wanna hear it.". I later apologized about 3 hours after the incident, in which he still responded rudely by saying "Mhm, sure." which, I will also admit, I could have chose to not respond to that, but of course I decided to confront this behavior. I showed a brief, and heavily censored screenshot to him to prove that I wasn’t lying, but still keeping the identity of the person in question anonymous (Which is a definite no, I will admit that was a terrible choice. I was desperate for him to not be angry anymore, and I was trying anything I could to deescalate him.) I then stated "I am genuinely sorry, I apologized, I took accountability, I admitted I was wrong, I explained, and yet you still sarcastically insult me.", to which he replied "Because you pissed me off i have every damn right to do so your lucky i aint like \[Censored for privacy, but this is a different friend we share, he has some anger issues, but I highly doubt he would actually do this.) (Censored, he said some out of pocket stuff here). Dont even bother with a response dont get me to that level" then there was a brief \~15 message back and forth about weed, and how he confused my request for an edible for me to take as me accusing him of not being sober anymore.
Am I the asshole for snapping and calling him out?
I think *censored* you should just *censored* and then say *censored*
People say wrong things, just because you are ready with an apology doesn’t mean they are ready to forgive
That’s fair. I see what you mean.
heads up! images didn’t upload!
For some reason it wouldn’t let me upload the images for context. Which is extra weird, because I’ve seen images before.
He didn’t insult you for apologizing. You were rude, he asked why, you gave a shitty answer, he asked for context and you were a total dick. ESH you sound inconsiderate and he sounds like an aggressive jerk
Yes YTA for not only snapping at your friend, but also having three separate conversations at the same time and then having the audacity to be mad at _him_ when you couldn’t manage the multitasking (and if you’re on a phone call you really shouldn’t be texting with other people at the same time. Concentrate on one thing for a minute!)