I(43f) am @ odds with both my husband (45m) & our 3rd of 4 kids (18f) over having bought $350 of winter clothing. 3 years ago I started losing weight & couldn’t figure out why for nearly a year. I got down to 100lbs before they removed the malfunctioning body part. I’m back to 130. I hadn’t gone out & bought new winter things before this because I was hoping to get back up a higher number. So I didn’t have a coat or boots or anything.
So today I went out & spent $350 @ my favorite clothing store (I have a store credit card) because they are having their end of year sale still. I got a pair of boots, thermal pants & a long sleeved thermal shirt, 4 sweaters, & a winter coat rated for -15C.
My husbands issue is the amount of money spent though he admitted that I got great deals (the coat was marked down from $534 to $234!) Our daughters issue is that she asked to use my regular credit card for 2 pairs of pants for $275 & I told her not until after all of my test results came back from the dr as I was quite certain that my labs would require new doses on some of my meds. So far only 2 have been adjusted but I know that my enzymes were off & the endocrinologist hasn’t gotten back to me about how to adjust them, having to take meds every day sucks. Now she’s mad that I used my store card but won’t let her use my regular card.
So AITA for spending $350 on winter clothes 3 days before the next snowstorm is expected?
NTA. You needed cloths. I would not give my kiddo my credit card OR buy them such expensive pants.
NTA
You spent $350 and got 8 items, one of which was a great deal. They are practical and you’ll use them more than once. Those were necessities, especially if you live in a state or country where your winter means -10c (and that’s being optimistic) daytime temps and 3ft of snow.
Your daughter wanted to spend $275 on 2 pairs of trousers. Are they necessity? Probably not.
It’s ridiculous wanting to spend $275 of someone else’s money on trousers . (Yes you’re the parent and you’re supposed to provide but if your kid wants trousers at $130ish a pair she can get a job and pay for them herself)
NTA! Sounds like 18f needs a job
This is ridiculous. You don’t have clothes to wear and they begrudge you a winter coat and boots? What a bunch of selfish AHs. Tell your daughter to get a job if she wants $275 worth of pants!
NTA. You got 6 items of winter clothing, boots, and a winter coat for $350. You needed all of these things because you didn’t have winter clothes that fit you, and most of that $350 went toward a good coat and boots which are expected to be expensive.
Why does your daughter think you should buy her 2 pairs of pants for $275? She doesn’t need $140 pants, and if she wants them then she can save for them.
Tell her to save her own money to buy the pants.
Wait, you survived what sounds like a life-threatening medical crisis and they’re wh83ning about $350 for clothing that fits your new shape? NTA!
Your daughter is 18 and if she needs expensive designer jeans, she needs to be paying for that herself. Is everyone fed? Is the rent/mortgage paid?
Warm clothing is a necessity.
Shame on your husband for wanting to deny you the necessities of life.
Your daughter is acting entitled. Your husband is acting like a miser. You are acting like you may not deserve to be clothed and warm.
$350 on all of that! You made a steal and should be proud you are such a bargain hunter.
Daughter needs a job if she wants $300 for 2 pairs of pants.
NTA
18 year old wants two pants for $275? She’s the AH.
My answer would be “no” even after the test results!
Absolutely NTA. Tell your daughter in no uncertain words that how you spend YOUR money is none of her business and she has no say in it. You also need to make your daughter understand the difference between wants and needs. You NEEDED these clothes and bought a bunch on sale for a good price. While your daughter just WANTED new pants using your money/credit. That’s being greedy and entitled. Teach her right now before she’s becoming insufferable.
Edit: thank you to the anonymous redditor for the award.
NTA but why is your 18 year old feeling that entitled to your money? Tell her to get a job!
You make me sad. Do you need to justify your purchases to your husband and kids?
Do these people even like you? You’ve had a major health scare, lost weight and now have no appropriate clothing and instead of being glad you’re getting better and getting clothes that fit you, your daughter is complaining she doesn’t get her *wants* met and your husband is complaining you spent money. They’re being very self-centred about this.