My mood has been absolutely terrible lately.
Actually, I consider myself a pretty good person in daily life. I’m helpful and always willing to lend a hand, so at work, I’m always happy to assist others with their tasks and offer help and advice to those new to the job.
But! There are some things I just can’t understand, and they make me feel exhausted. They seem to have gotten used to my help; they think it’s my duty! My only hobby is playing World of Warcraft by myself after get off work, and they keep calling me to ask me to do this and that, in a tone that makes me feel like "I should do this." I haven’t played the game by myself for several days now, even though it’s a pre-patch and not very fun, but I feel like that’s my own time!
Later, I snapped at them. At the company, I yelled at everyone, I cursed at them all, and they thought I was being unreasonable.
The boss thinks I disrupted team harmony and told me to apologize to them, but is it my fault? I really don’t think it’s my fault.
AITA？
NTA. Stop answering the phone after work! It is really that simple.
YTA. Not for not being the good guy but you don’t go to work and start yelling at people. It’s very unprofessional. If you wanted peace and quiet, why not mute your phone? PS. If your boss told you to apologize and you don’t, you might end up being replaced.
It’s the perfect time to also establish boundaries. “I’m sorry I yelled. I let it all get to me. Moving forward I will not be responding to messages outside of working hours to avoid anything like this happening again in the future. I hope that you will forgive my disrespectful behaviour and accept my apology”
ESH you shouldn’t have yelled at your co-workers. But go back to your manager saying the team harmony was broken because they failed to train staff appropriately and as such staff constantly interrupt you out of hours.
And put your co-workers on mute when you get home. Don’t answer their calls, and if the complain ask what needed to be fixed that you couldn’t ask our manager. They should be fielding these calls and only calling you in an emergency.
INFO: I understand you’re upset, but for all the words you’ve used, you’ve given almost no information.
Who is “they”? (Colleagues? Friends?)
What specifically are they asking you to do? (Work overtime? Help them move house? Pick up someone else’s shift for them due to illness/family emergency?)
Where/when are they asking you? (At work? After you get home?)
And most importantly, what actually happened to make you snap?
Your intentions are admirable however your actions were less than desired. You need to learn how to communicate without displaying that kind of emotions. Discuss with your coworkers what you feel is pushing the limit and what not to expect of you and set your boundaries . But do it professionally. You sound like a good decent smart guy. Don’t let those qualities go to waste by not effectively communicating to your mangers and coworkers.
Not enough detail to make a judgement. Easiest solution is just phone on silent mode when you get home
If your mood has been terrible lately, you may need medical intervention. There is no shame in asking for help.
Sadly, despite usually being helpful, yelling at people and losing it at work is unacceptable. You should apologise and make a plan with your employer to move forward in a constructive manner for everyone, including you. That means your day ends when you go home.
I don’t think there’s a ton of info here because you’ve given no detail in the type of requests they’re giving you and not saying exactly how it’s preventing you from enjoying your game.
But it sounds like YTA for blowing up at people at work from this info. It’s extremely unprofessional and it doesn’t sound like there was even a good enough reason for it. You can set firm boundaries calmly and explain your feelings over this without yelling.
YTA. You need to draw boundaries and tell people where they are. You can’t just keep doing things you don’t want to until you blow up and then blame everyone else. You’re not the nice guy if you are just a pressure cooker waiting to blow.
Um, yeah, YTA. you swore at all of them (childish), and you owe them an apology. Stop letting people “guilt” you into doing things you don’t want to. It’s your life. Live it as you wish.