So,
This happened a good couple months ago, I’ve been dating Mark ( not real name ) for a while and we went to an airsoft game together, now we have a mutual friend there jack ( also not real name ) who i think is a questionable person… but that’s irrelevant. So there was a group with jack and we were all chatting before the game, then after some harmless banter, jack decides to smear some butter sandwich all over my chest, which made me really uncomfortable because not only did he touch my boobs, he also put food on me.. my boyfriend was stood next to me and just laughed along with all his friends. He didn’t stop jack or tell him it’s wrong and not to do that, he just laughed along. I got really upset and walked away to one of my friends who’s new to airsoft, max ( not real name ).. So me and max were at a different table and we were chatting and looking at google maps on his phone because he was showing me urbex spots he found.
After, mark got really pissed at me because I embarrassed him by going off and talking to max and ignoring him.. he said if his friends didn’t know any better, they would of thought that me and max were dating. Which I don’t see why, as we weren’t even sitting close to each other and we were just chatting.
So AITA for walking away from mark?
LMK if you need any clarification.
NTA god what a weenie your boyfriend is km sorry but any man that gets that jealous over something so stupid is not a man id want to be in a relationship you literally did nothing wrong whereas your BF and his friends very much so did.
NTA at all. You were just chatting and he laughed along with his friends when they made you uncomfortable. Leave him in that alleyway dumpster where he belongs
No, your bf should have been more concerned about the dude that assaulted you
NTA How old are you guys for your boyfriend to say Jack doesn’t know any better than to literally smear butter on your breasts? That’s some kindergarten level shit.
NTA. You embarrassed him? Nah he embarrassed you by not sticking up for you and not calling out what essentially was SA (or whatever the more appropriate legal term would be) along with excusing that behavior. If I didn’t know any better I would think he’s your bully and not your bf. I don’t like to jump on the “dump him” train but this is major red flag behavior all around
NTA: Your boyfriend is the a-hole for not stepping in to defend you from that other friend. Jack is also an a-hole. I would stop dating a guy who thinks your humiliation is funny, because it’s not. I think it’s natural you’d go hang out with someone else who can treat you with respect.
Date Max, your BF is an AH.
NTA. If my fiance or boyfriend just stood there while another guy touched my chest by smearing food on it, I’d walk away too. His friend embarrassed you and now he’s blaming you of all people?
Please tell your boyfriend to actually act like a boyfriend should and to get off of his high horse.
Maybe you should be dating max because whatsisface is a [reddit won’t let me call him names here] His friend was gross to you and his response was why arent you paying attention to me?
NTA
He’s not much of a boyfriend if he just stood by laughing while you were assaulted. You did right by waking away, no matter who you were talking to afterward. Your boyfriend and his “friends” need to get over themselves.
NTA, I’d rip into mark then distance yourself from him for now. Maybe not breakup but definitely distance as he laughed along with his friends when something that’s obviously made you uncomfortable as I imagined you walking away is an obvious expression of that?? If I didn’t know any better I’d say mark is just letting his friends do things that make you uncomfortable and just laughs with them without a care when you’re embarrassed if they find it funny. You and max were just talking, if Mark is SOOO insecure about that. He can cry you the Nile because of how much denial he probably is about how in the wrong he is, cause he is! He’s in the wrong and you gotta distance yourself as he’s showing you how he’s one, not willing to defend you when you’re embarrassed/uncomfortable by something that his(and yours) friends did that already says a LOTT about him. And number two, mark is being insecure about Max because he’s a guy. That’s the only reason he lashed out and said that, hes insecure and is also showing you that. It’s time to decide if you’re willing to try to have him change, set boundaries or if it’s time to run away from that relationship like your life depends on it. But again, NTA.
NTA. Tell him you weren’t going to Max. You were getting away from him.
Hmmm…
>he said if his friends didn’t know any better, they would of thought that me and max were dating.
…to which one proper response would be, “well, why should they think WE’RE dating after you stood there and watched Jack smear butter all over my chest and touch my boobs while you LAUGHED.”
NTA.