So I (26 F) and my roommate (27 F) have lived together for about 4 years. She is currently in the process of moving out of our apartment and in with her boyfriend. I haven’t decided whether I am staying at the current apartment or moving elsewhere, but my roommate told our leasing office WE would be moving out. I was expressing my frustration about the situation to my mother and my mother said something about my roommates relationship not lasting long and her potentially looking for a new roommate in a couple months. I didn’t disagree, but I did say that I obviously hope that things work out between them. A couple days pass and my roommate hasn’t really been home or spoken to me at all. I texted her to ask if things were ok and she said that she overheard the conversation via the security camera in our house that only she has access to and that she felt disrespected. I personally feel like it isn’t a big deal because 1. It was a conversation between me and my mother. 2. I’ve never stated any of this to my roommate because I don’t want to be disrespectful about her relationship. I genuinely don’t know if I did something wrong, but I did apologize for making her upset. There’s a little more to the story, but this has already been kinda long so…
EDIT: Roommate said she heard her name on the ring camera and said she was checking the security camera in the house to make sure everything was ok and that is when she heard the conversation.
NTA you didn’t do anything wrong
uh, why does she have a camera in the apartment that you don’t have access to? she’s not your friend. ignore her.
NTA, but you will be to yourself if you dont search your apartment right away and remove those cameras!
YOU should be angry at her for SPYing on you. not the other way around!
It’s not like that it’s a security camera, but I just never got the login
she’s still using it to spy on you 🤷🏻♀️
Seriously WTF on the camera!
NTA people need to understand everyone frustrates the people they’re around at some point and being able to talk about those frustrations with a 3rd party is important. We’re not suppose to know everyone’s unprocessed thoughts about us. Spying on someone is weird, cameras should only be used if you think something has happened or you’re checking on a pet/child, not to listen to private conversations. She also shouldn’t have spoken on your behalf to the leasing office if she didn’t know for certain if you were moving out/didn’t ask her to.
NTA. People who eavesdrop can’t complain when they hear things they don’t like.
100% NTA
She deserved to hear whatever seemed to strike a nerve because she was invading your privacy.
NTA but she is, eavesdropping on your conversation with your mother.
NTA. She should not have a camera eavesdropping on you! She should have taken responsibility for giving the landlord the incorrect notice and apologize to you for that.
NTA and what part of her spying on you on your own home is okay? None. She’s the ah for being creepy and watching you like that. You don’t want this roommate back. They don’t believe in privacy. Also, why is she the only one with access to cameras you are being recorded on inside your own home.
Unplug that bad boy right away. She can just move out quicker if she doesn’t like it.
NTA- moving in together breaks a lot of couples up, most people are thinking the same thing your mom is. Also you didn’t need to defend her, it wasn’t an attack. She should have minded her business and also not told the landlord that you were moving too, why would she speak for you?
NTA. How else were you supposed to describe the situation to your mother?
Also, why is your roommate the only one with access to the security camera in your shared apartment?? It’s kinda creepy that she decided it was okay to just spy and eavesdrop like that.