For context; I 28 F and my husband 28 m have been trying to conceive since we lost our baby. I have been trying myself on n off for ten years. My bestfriend (27 F) told me I’m being annoying with my negativity after I completely left after she forced me into taking a pregnancy test. And it was negative and it broke me. (I at the time was 17 days late) then she goes and says that I’m being annoying that she struggles with her first child before she had her kids. I told her, “try, trying for ten years then tell me how you feel.” This has been one of the many battles we’ve gotten into and this was my last straw she’s so unsupportive unless it’s a positive for her. Today was the first day I’ve said anything related to infertility and how it’s affecting me.
Before this it was she didn’t want my other half coming around sick cause she didn’t want her kids sick but it was fine that we came around when she’s sick cause my sisters newborn doesn’t matter.
Edit: I said on and off. I was with the same person since I was 16 I was planning for my life I was grateful for the grandparents I lived with they helped a lot with where I saved up money.
Also 18 you’re a legal adult. I wasn’t in highschool anymore at that point and I’m not the type of person who believed in going to college. I wasn’t a home health nurse from 18 to 25 now I work construction and I make really good money and happily married. I have had three miscarriages and two were back to back.
Here’s some scissors: ✂️
Time to cut her out of your life.
I mean, obviously NTA, she sounds like a shit friend who needs to be cut from your life.
But are you telling me you’ve been ttc since you were 18? 🤔
Did you know that it’s not illegal to end a friendship? You can just stop being around this person and there’s literally nothing they can do about it?
Best friend? Sounds more like your best enemy. NTA.
NTA. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this
28 and you’ve been trying to conceive for 10 years????????? Yeah, I think you’re leaving a lot of details out.
Many friendships aren’t forever and that’s normal and okay. I wouldn’t spend another minute with this person.
It’s soul shattering. You have my sympathy and prayers for the struggle. Dump Debbie Downer!
NTA. You should be able to talk about whatever you want with a friend and you’ll know once you find someone like that. get her AWAY
Info: are you always just dumping all your issues on her or do the two of you ever do things that don’t revolve around “woe is me”? I’ve definitely had some friends that I’ve told need to go to a therapist because I am not qualified to help you.
You’ve been trying to get pregnant since you were 18?
I have to admit I had trouble following your post, but if you don’t feel your friend is a good friend, move on.