Lorna and i have been friends for the longest now, we met in high school and we have been together since then. We do everything together besides seeing the same man lol. i think she is the only one who understands me better. Recently she went to a concert which i was not able to attend due to work and she met with some girls,( lucy and Janet). Everything seemed to change immediately she met those girls. She started going out without me, they would pick her up and drop her off late at night. i became concerned and asked about her new friends because i noticed her attitude changed even towards me. She said they were cool and there is nothing i should be worried about. Lorna doesn’t drink. But i noticed she will be drunk when the drop her off sometimes. i was not happy about this new Lorna so when Lucy and Janet came to pick her up some days ago i confronted them and told them i did not like this friendship and she should stop hanging out with them. Lorna accused me of just been jealous of her because she was having the best time of her life. Even Janet and lucy jumped to her defense and told me i was just a bitter soul holding Lorna down from reaching her potential in life. what potential did they mean? i truly don’t undertstand. Thy both rained insults on me and walked out. Please tell me, Am i actually the asshole for asking them to leave Lorna alone?
You spelled THEIR wrong.
I think that’s the least of the issues here lol
YTA- you don’t get to tell her who can be friends with, even though you don’t like the changes. It isn’t your decision, and you absolutely don’t get to tell her what to do. You should have expressed it as concern over her behavior, but instead you just came across as a jealous mean girl
You also need to remember you are her friend, not her mother. It is not your place to tell her who else she can befriend or what she does with them, but if you have a real issue or concern for her well being (and not just plain jealousy of being left out) talk to her in private like a FRIEND!
If you don’t like her friends then you don’t like them. But I don’t think you get to police who your friend hangs out with. If she wants a drink she will drink. And yes, YTA. You’re also NOT her mother.
YTA. Your friend has other friends. Get a grip and grow up baby.
Friendship evolves just like we do. Sometimes they evolve with us and sometimes they don’t. You will have a few close friends throughout your lifetime. Some will be forever friends and others fit into your life at a time and then fade away. Lorna is allowed to have friends besides you and you the same. Seek out new friends and allow her to do the same. If your friendship is a high priority for both of you, it will work its way out. If not, be blessed to have had such a close friend and move forward. You jumping in and telling those girls what is best for Lorna is not your job and will only backfire. It’s so hard when a close relationship fizzles out. But that is the nature of life. Give her space, continue to spend time together when you can. But ya…You are being an AH by undermining Lorna’s choices to suit your own and preserve your relationship as is. But you don’t have to be.
YTA
YTA. Who the hell are you to tell her what to do, who to hang out with and to be so rude to the people she chooses to hang out with. All you are going to do is ruin a friendship
Honestly, you sound jealous that she has other friends now. If you really felt pressed to raise an issue with Lorne, you should have done it WITH Lorne alone, not with the friends present. YTA.
YTA stop controlling your friend. So what if she hangs out with peope who aren’t you or has a few drinks! You were very rude for no reason other then your friend has a life outside of you now and you’re not okay with it
Did I miss the part where you get to control another adult woman’s life and choices? YTA for that alone.
YTA: You seem a tad… co-dependent? Take this opportunity to extend your own social circle.
YTA. People can have more than one friend. Adults are allowed to drink.