Background context: I am 15(M) and met my friend 16(M) through my coding class at school. We had been friends for about 1 semester, game together on call when we have time, and I would say we have great chemistry together. I have started a food business for some money on the side to spend, since I don’t get allowance. My family used to shop at Costco but since we only went a couple times back then, eventually they cancelled their membership and we stopped shopping at Costco. Now, lets go back a couple weeks ago, when my friend mentioned he had a Costco card and was going to shop w/ his family. I had met his dad once before and he seemed chill enough. So I asked him if I could tag along, if it was ok of course. He asked his parents and they were pretty chill about it, so I went shopping with them. After shopping I was going to play them back and realized I didn’t have enough cash on me at the time since I had just started this business, but my friend covered me and said, "Hey, don’t sweat it, pay me when you can!". So that was that. I do recognize that this was a shitty move to do, but I reasoned with myself that if I had payed back the original amount, it was fine, and so I did. HOWEVER, my mother found out and she was livid. So I payed EXTRA due to her telling me to, but it was ok since business was booming. Now flashforward about a month from that, and I was running low on supplies, so I asked my friend when they would go shopping next, and if I could tag along. I asked my mother, and this is the part where I was confused. Now my mom still believes in old values but has started to adapt slowly. When I asked her she said absolutely not. Since she only saw them and talked to them once and very briefly, she couldn’t get a grasp on how they ran their household. (Mind you I have a pretty strict household due to some events in the past, but that’s a story for next time.) Anyways she proceeded to shout at me to sit down and talked to me for 1 hour about how it was embarrassing for me to go with them. She said something on the lines of "Shopping is a very personal thing that you should only do with immediate family and it’s parallel to doing laundry with them and showering with them. It looks like you’re a beggar kid who’s parents can’t afford the membership, and they look down on your and probably feel bad for you."
After 45 mins of this, I was tired of this and told her something on the lines of "OK, I get it" but she told me to sit back down and told me that if I wanted to go shopping with that family, the I should go live with them, and the only reason I want to go shopping with them is because I would buy everything I wanted instead of her nitpicking at it for only the bare necessities. I said this was true and she told me I betrayed the family. She them proceeded to buy a Costco membership and told me I had a shitty attitude. I understand her as i did. I tried to listen and remain calm but after an hour, I couldn’t do it anymore. lwk wut u think