My hubby and my mother have birthdays just a few days apart, hubs suggested having them over for dinner to celebrate her birthday and his at the same time. GREAT! Invited my parents and all was good. Later in his mother asked what our plans are for his birthday, I let her know. Right off the bat I could tell she was either annoyed, or mad (maybe both). I asked if she had other plans and she said something along the lines of “you’re his wife it’s your responsibility now” (for context this is his first birthday since we got married). She is now pissed that “plans were made without them”
I told hubs to talk to his mom and I’m done with her passive aggressive hissy fits (this is not the first, many were done, even about our wedding). He has not told me of any plans made with them, and I asked him that going forward he is to be in contact with his mother in regards to plans because I am tired of her pushing until she gets what she wants and ask that when she has these “episodes” for lack of a better word that he actually sticks up for me. I am made out to be the monster when it was HIS idea to plan it this way. He is only defending her saying she just wants to spend her son’s birthday with him. AITA for being annoyed at the both of them over this?! Keep in mind this is NOT the first, I have a mental list of all the times something similar has happened and he has not defended me in the slightest.
Thank you!🙏