Hey yall. So I’m going through a situation right now with my sister. I’ll keep it brief without trying to give out too much details. I apologize in advance for poor grammar. For context I’m in my 20s and she is 18. We live with our grandparents with our other siblings here (minors) Originally it was just supposed to be me living with them so I have my own room in this house while they share. I am in college and working part time while also being chronically ill. My sister is difficult to be around majority of the time as she has a victim mindset and thinks she can do whatever she wants (such as stealing money from me and my grandparents and much worse)
She has a very on and off again toxic relationship and refuses to take accountability over it. She recently got pregnant by him. It has been so bad that my grandparents threatened to kick her out because she is disrespectful to everyone in the house and my grandparents said they do not want him in the house at all (before she got pregnant) and she continually snuck in him when everyone was sleeping.
Now that she is pregnant she is even more miserable to be around saying it’s hormones. She got into an argument again with my grandparents recently and they threatened to kick her out if she continues being disrespectful to everyone. She brought up the fact that I’m in my 20s still living here when I should be the one kicked out since I’m older. I’m usually at school, work or at doctors office and all of that takes up my whole day which she knows since I’ve explained multiple times to her. Then proceeded to say she should have my room since she will need more space now that she has a baby on the way and that I am never home anyway.
It was my final straw and I literally said some hurtful things to her because of the constant disrespect over the years. I basically said she can’t even finish high school (she unenrolled because she didnt want to go) let alone keep a job because she always calls out and gets fired for poor attendance because hanging out with friends and partying is more important so she needs to reevaluate herself before even criticizing my life and telling my grandparents what they should do when she isn’t even supposed to be in the house to begin with and that she is only here because she kept messing up her own life.
She then started cussing me out saying that I don’t care about her or the baby and at that point I said she’s right and she can f*** off and leave me out of anything related to her or the baby. I then went to my room and slammed the door. She proceeded to cry and call her friends and talk about how bad of a person I am.
My younger sister said some stuff I said was harsh but I disagree. She needed a reality check of the situation.
AITA for stooping low and calling out my sisters mistakes and making her upset over it and telling her to f*** off?
Girl this is a hard NTA
Thank you. I was also having doubts because of being the eldest sister. I just feel like I should have never stooped to that level.
I am older sister as well if my sisters acted like this repeatedly I feel like break too she brought you to that point NTA
NTA, sometimes you have to tell people the reality of the situation, and most people don’t seem to like that.
NTA
pregnant or not, your sister doesn’t have a single right to dictate who lives at your grandparent’s, neither the accommodations
You’re very right, she needed a reality check: she’s in deeeeeep trouble and I believe she has this fantasy about having a baby that fixes her life
NTA agreed. I feel bad for the unborn kid. What dysfunction ☹️
Honestly I think you’re right. I think she also thinks it will bring the baby daddy back. I am trying to figure out a way with my mom to somehow get at least guardianship over baby.
From what you have said, your sister is going to bounce the minute that she has to look after this baby without family support. Personally I would wait for her to realize how hard it is to raise a child as a single, independent parent. Wait until she leaves the baby with someone so that she can attend a hair appointment… and then doesn’t come back for a week…
Honestly, I feel so bad for that child. I hope she has an abortion, because that kid is going to lead a miserable life because of their “mother”
NTA. Also get a lock for the door to your room.
Yes already did 🫡
She should move in with the guy who impregnated her. If they aren’t willing to live together, why are they having a child together?
They are both 18. He doesn’t want the baby and made that very clear. His mom also doesn’t want anything to do with it because she thinks she is baby trapping him.
Your sister should get an abortion but it sounds like she likes the attention of being pregnant, or at least the ability to demand attention because she’s pregnant.
Grandparents need to kick her out before the baby comes, otherwise you are all going to be raising the kid for her while she goes out to party.