28Y M. Last weekend I was at my grandmothers place, and my sister’s 4y old was there too. He was watching his Ipad the whole time and when my Grandmother asked him something he didn’t respond or not even look up. It happened 4 times and the 5th time I gently told my sister that he should not do that and he should learn how to respect someone by listening and that being on the iPad constantly might not be the best for him. She immediately got upset and told me that I don’t have kids, so i shouldn’t tell her how to raise hers. I didn’t mean to offend her, and I felt bad for my grandmother. AITA?
Edit : my sister’s kid is not autistic.
NTA
When kids are not corrected for bad/or disrespectful behavior they will simply carry that with them into later life
NTA. Your sister is setting your kid up for failure by training him to ignore the world around him to focus exclusively on his entertainment device.
for real, its wild how some parents act like basic manners arent important
NTA, I don’t care if you have kids or not, teaching basic respect like responding to your grandma is a bare minimum parenting job she failed at in that moment.
Totally. Kids gotta learn manners somewhere, and your grandma deserves that respect. You weren’t overstepping.
Yikes!! Gross.
NTA x 1000
Of course my Southern Grandma would have taken care of that issue herself… Ahem.
NTA — generally I subscribe to the concept that parenting should be left to the actual parent, but I don’t think caring about both your nephew and your grandmother makes you an AH. I’m guessing your sister uses the ipad to keep her son occupied so she doesn’t have to actually parent. As the parent, that is her call, but her son is not learning important social skills and how to engage in personal interactions. He has a real shot at growing up and wondering why he doesn’t have many friends and close relationships. Granted, that is and will be pretty common as it is the norm for more and more people. But it’s pretty sad.
NTA as a parent myself, setting your kid in front of a tablet is *not* good parenting
NTA. I do have kids and I will say you are correct. It’s rude to be glued to a screen when you’re visiting someone and even ruder to not respond or even listen when someone is speaking directly to you.
NTA
Your sister is ruining your nephew. She needs to be called out for how she is raising him
NTA. Your sister is lazy and not being a parent. She is taking the easy way out by keeping her kid occupied with electronics. That will not serve him well in the future.
NTA. The new Toy Story movie has a tablet as the villain (LilyPad). Take your sister and nephew.
Some parents ABSOLUTELY need to be told how to raise a kid. Period.
You are NTA in any way, shape, or form.
Agreed. You need a license to drive a car but any idiot can have a kid.