This situation happened at a family event, my sister has all her backup because people hate the truth. It’s fine because they won’t be seeing me anymore, by the way, my sister and I never got along.
sister(36f) op(32F)
So my mom invited me, my kids, and my husband to the party, we haven’t been to one in years. My husband and I did get into something little but he still said he wanted to come, it was over something stupid. When we arrived it was almost packed, seen family I haven’t seen in years. The kids went off to the backyard, my husband was talking to my uncles. I was quiet because the argument was still sitting on my chest, my husband would make eye contact with me from time to time.
I was sitting on one of the folding chairs, my mom sat next to me and asks me what was wrong. I didn’t realize my sister was sitting at the end of the table, I was talking low so I didn’t think she would hear. I told my mom it was a stupid argument, she told me it’s okay and we will get over it. Simple, my sister wanted to put her two cents in. She said I should take notes from her marriage and how to treat a man, actually who asked her?
I will explain, my sister husband(43M) is Muslim and she converted for him. They have 5 boys, now let’s get into what their marriage is like. Her husband is a very strict man, he doesn’t believe that women should have jobs because women are only good for making kids and cooking, if a woman talk back to him then he thinks she should be punished, traveling is not allowed because that’s a signed of disrespect, he is supposed to be served first and not the kids. He’s tried to make my husband convert to put men my place because he says I have a smart mouth. He’s very rude to her but she’s so submissive to him, he does have an outside child with another woman and my sister helps take care of their child. So why would I take any advice from her? That’s no life a woman should live.
So I feel offended that she would say that, she’s always been the one to compare her marriage to mines, she even does that with some of our aunts. I don’t know why she likes comparing herself to me, I’m no one perfect. I don’t know what makes her think she is above us, she’s special I guess. I told her to never compare her sad marriage to mines, she had the audacity to cry. I thunk I should’ve ignore her because my kids were here but good thing they didn’t hear anything. My mom only defended me, while my aunts came at me for my sister.