So, I (17F) was just sitting on the cound minding my business right? My Uncle (31) came in and was -not harshly- getting on my sister/daughter (2) for getting into the dog food. She just had it in a cup, without water or anything, and my Uncle annoyed and threw it out. I was bewildered and so I ask what she was doing? And he was like ‘she was getting into the dog food’ he was getting more upset. I asked why he threw it away it wasn’t ruined or anything. And then he tried to talk about how ‘the dog is uncomfortable and doesn’t eat when the baby is in the same room’ or whatever. And I was like ‘no the dog is usually fine when she’s in there, it’s a sometimes thing’. And then he got super pissy that I said that. I tried to reroute back to him throwing it away and so I asked if the dog food was ruined or something. And he literally said no and that it was fine. So I asked why he threw it away, why did he waste it like that. And he got realllyy mad about it. And was like ‘okay you won, the logic and everything blah, blah, blah’. I was literally so shocked and pissed off fr but I took a deep breath and said ‘okay whatever dude, that was crazy’. And he got all pissy and left the room. Then my grandpa (67) was mad at me for starting an argument with an adult. And he was mumbling about me starting an argument with an adult. I’m pretty sure he heard me crying because I felt like shit cus they were mad at me, and I don’t do well when people I do respect are dissaponted in me. Literally all I could do was laugh because the absurdity of my grandpa ‘talking crap about a 17 year old’ and I said it out loud, and wasn’t really quiet about it-he looked at me too-.
I say sister/daughter because I am her full-time caregiver, have been since she was born, and I take on most of the responsibilities of her mother. The dog is mine and my siblings.
so she’s your daughter AND your sister?
She is my sister but since I’m her full-time caregiver I take most of the responsibility that a mother would.
Is her mother absent?
You have a sister who is also your daughter? What the hillbilly is even going on here?
And he heard her crying… but all she could do was laugh… this is so bad.
Are you an adult?
We’re missing a lot of context here, whose house are you in? Who’s dog is it? Why is that your sister / daughter? We need understanding because I have no context for any of this.
I’m in my grandpa’s house, not my Uncle’s. Its my families dog. I am her full-time caregiver so I’m more of a mother to her than sister.
Nah you’re her sister
Big difference that you’ll never understand until you have kids. Just say it’s your sibling. It changes this entire convo
I understand that the dog doesn’t like to eat in the same room as the 2 year old – but I’m assuming the dog is owned by the uncle? It’s his responsibility to ensure the dog is fed and if there has been past issues about the dog not eating when the child is there – then it’s much easier to move a dog- no? He shouldn’t have thrown the food away – but trying to continue the argument wasn’t okay. Somebody should ensure the child isn’t getting into the food and that she is away from the dog when it’s trying to eat.
Not the grandpas place to get involved and the uncle shouldn’t have continued an argument with a 17 year old. He’s an adult and should ensure that the dog food is away out of reach if there is a toddler in the home. Technically NTA but just try not to stretch arguments out in future if unnecessary
I’m going to say NTA because you’re young. It sounds like your uncle was mad and threw out the dog food in anger. It was stupid but you don’t have to point out every stupid thing you see a family member do. Unless it’s causing a bigger problem, it’s ok to let a few things slide.
People generally know when they are being stupid. If you get in the habit of calling them out every time you will turn into TA.
If it’s important to you to call them out every time, then learn to be good natured about it and funny. People love to be teased. Make them laugh at themselves. Then you will be loved and they will feel like you love them too.
Sister/daughter? I’m concerned about your relationship with your father.