My partner who I’m 100% committed to and love with all my heart is angry at me for having his ex on social media.
I knew this guy was his ex, as about 6 months ago, we showed who our friends were on Snapchat, Facebook etc. and my partner knew I had him on social media as I knew his ex. He never mentioned that he wanted me to delete him or that he wasn’t comfortable with it, he just stated "I know him, I dated him previously".
Fast forward to now, he’s angry that I had his ex on social media, mind you there was only 1 conversation I had with him since meeting my partner. That was a message from him replying to my Snapchat story with a picture of me and my partner stating that "I knew you two would end up together" and me replying "Yeah I love him so much"
He says he’s angry that I didn’t automatically delete them from my social media when I knew that he was his ex. I would’ve deleted him instantly had my partner asked me to or expressed any kind of discomfort about it.
As soon as he mentioned now that he’s uncomfortable, I showed him the messages and deleted him after.
He is angry that I didn’t just delete him as soon as I knew it was his ex.
AITA for not deleting his ex off social media as soon as I knew it was his ex?
NTA for not being a mind-reader. How were you supposed to know this would bother him without him telling you before?
He doesn’t get to be angry about you not meeting uncommunicated expectations, period.
NTA
NTA. That’s such a weird thing to get upset about, if no one says it’s a problem, how are you to know it’s a problem? Not everyone thinks the same thing about ex’s, let alone their partners ex’s.
NTA at all. Especially since it sounds like the ex was supporting the relationship
Obviously NTA. You had no way of knowing he wanted you to delete the dude. Your boyfriend is massively overreacting, and it makes me wonder what the hell is actually going on with him and this “ex.”
NTA – you’re not a mind reader. How were you meant to know? He needs to communicate his boundaries way more clearly so you can understand what makes him uncomfortable.
NTA. He needed to state that boundary, you’re not a mindreader.
How were you supposed to know that? You’re not a mindreader, he needed to state that boundary. NTA
YTA for having an account 1 hour old and having two completely different stories going on. Bot.
NTA. If it was that big of a deal to him, he could’ve said something months ago. U can’t guess boundaries that were never communicated &you deleted him right away once he did say it…
Was the ex abusive/ was it a harsh break up?
If so, then YTA. If not and they were still friendly, NTA
NTA why would the assumption be that you should delete him especially when your partner’s response was very neutral? If they had a negative response then yeah I’d get it but that’s not the case. The ex seemed to have only positive words for the two of you too.