My wife came up behind me while I was sitting in a chair and started tapping my ears. Not really hard, and not with any malice. But it was unpleasant so I told her to stop boxing my ears. She got upset and I explained that I understand that she was just trying to goof around. She resents that I used the term boxing, and thinks I need to apologize for thinking that she had the worst possible intentions insinuating that she was hitting me. I don’t think I have anything to apologize for, am I the asshole?
NTA. Your wife needs to look at her actions from your side
NTA, she’s probably embarrassed for being called out and is trying to deflect so she doesn’t feel as bad.
If it were me I’d offer to apologize for calling it boxing if she first apologizes for doing it in the first place.
NAH. She did not box your ears, she annoyed you. And you misspoke.
NTA
She just feels bad for being called out for what she did. The word you use doesn’t change what she did.
I’m sure she wouldn’t like it if you did the same to her.
Yeah, I had to look up the term “boxing ears,” but it sounds like that’s *not* what she was doing, and you’re being overly dramatic about it, so YTA.
Maybe not boxing, but if it was unpleasant and you told her to stop she has nothing to be upset about. She was hitting you and you told her to stop.
I hate when people touch my ears. My reaction would be a lot stronger than yours. But then again, my partner doesn’t hit me.
Its not like you can plan your vocabulary if it was unprovoked. You didnt like it and you said it.
ESH. She caused you discomfort with her tapping, you overstated the intensity of the “attack”, and now she’s deflecting because your hyperbole makes her uncomfortable.
You both need to apologize but I’ m not sure either of you deserve one.
NTA. She is upset because she completely misread how you would react and is redirecting her embarrassment
NTA, wtf is wrong with people. Sensitivity overdrive. Wife hits your ears hard enough to be unpleasant. You say stop boxing my ears. She gets offended by words you get physical discomfort. Yet you must apologise. This is exactly what is wrong with society today. ‘I started it, but you hurt my feelings afterwards, so you must apologise”.
NTA. “Boxing” might’ve been the wrong word, but if you were uncomfortable, she should’ve just apologized and backed off.
NTA.
*She* got offended because you didn’t like her hitting you? It doesn’t matter how softly she hit them. She still hit them. Not OK.
This is the dumbest thing I’ve read today.
I love how this sub selectively polices language.
“OMG you AcCuSeD hEr Of BoXiNG YoUr EaRs”
NTA at all