I was on the dance floor at this club and I walked up to this one woman who was chillin by some seats that her friends were sitting at. I didn’t know they were her friends at the time. I asked her if she’d dance with me and she said "let me finish my drink and I don’t really like the song that’s playing right now." I said that’s fine. She ended up sitting down with two of her friends and I waited for like three songs to go by and then I walked over there to her but then one of her friends got up and did some hand motions for me to go away. She looked really serious. I went back to the dance floor and just tried to enjoy the rest of my night, but I don’t get that.
I mean, no NTA, but she was probably just trying to soft reject you and you didn’t take the hint
Yeah don’t sit around waiting for someone to change their mind op. Go off and enjoy yourself. If they were serious about it they’d make the move when they’re ready. But don’t hold your breath or keep bothering them about it. Some people struggle to give a direct “no”. I’d assume anything but an emphatic “yes” is a no until shown otherwise. You made the offer, up to them to take you up on it.
Regardless this situation was no big deal. Live and learn. Don’t let it get to you.
She was being polite and didn’t want to dance with you. Her friend was helping her out so she didn’t have to be rude to you.
this, she just wasn’t interested.
It is what it is. She probably didn’t want to dance and you asking for the second time after three songs kinda seemed desperate. Just move on.
>”let me finish my drink and I don’t really like the song that’s playing right now.”
An initial refusal usually means just that. If she really wanted to dance and was waiting for a better song she would have come to you. The ones who want to dance will give an enthusiastic yes.
again – we need a “you’re an idiot” tagline here
NTA
NTA but when a woman needs a friend to intervene with hand motions, it means she felt uncomfortable or was being cornered and u should have taken her first ‘not right now’ as a firm ‘no.
NAH. She didn’t want to dance with you
NAH
She didn’t want to dance with you. Women have learned that it’s not safe to outright reject romantic advances so she tried to let you down gently. Next time if a woman gives you ANY kind of excuse, that’s a no. If she turn her back, that’s a no. If she walks away, that’s a no. If she doesn’t respond, that’s a no. If she says something like maybe later”, that’s a no. If she moves closer to her friends, that’s a no.
It’s fine to ask but unless she says yes, it’s a no and don’t bother her again.
Excellent advice
Also want to add that if she was interested, she would have gone out on the dance floor to dance with OP after the song changed. And she didn’t.
Good job on the initial approach, but you probably need to read between the lines a bit more after that. Going back a second time is probably never the move. Your best bet is to try to have fun, or at least look like it in hopes she approaches you, or you see her out another time.
Edit: nta