My cousin just got married.
I wore one of my dresses for her wedding. It was a simple but beautiful dress. I don’t remember the exact cost but I think it was over 1000 dollars.
A few days ago she confronted me and accused me of trying to upstage her in her wedding. She said I shouldn’t have wore a dress that was more expensive than her wedding dress which apparently she bought for less than 500 dollars.
I mean if she is buying such a cheap dress then she should expect guests wearing more expensive dress than hers. I wasn’t even thinking about the price when I wore it.
Now she thinks I’m an asshole.
Edit: I’m adding this since people keep asking:
The dress wasn’t even new. When I wore it first in another event she asked me the price and I told her.
INFO:
How does anyone other than you know how much you paid for the dress?
INFO
Did you tell people how much it cost?
Was the wedding clearly started to have a certain aesthetic (country chic for example) and you wore an out of place cocktail dress?
ESH. Who cares about the cost of the dress? Were you overdressed for the venue and the dress code? It may be simple to you, but that doesn’t mean you were correctly dressed for the event.
>I mean if she is buying such a cheap dress
You sound like a materialistic brat when you say this. She still spent $500. While relatively reasonable for a wedding dress, I’m betting this wasn’t a high end black tie event where your pricy piece would’ve fit in. This post really makes it seem like you want strangers to know you have a $1k+ dress.
INFO
How does she know how expensive your dress is?
What is your culture and the bride’s culture?
What was the wedding dress code and setting?
INFO
She knows the price of the dress? How?
Ultimately I think price isn’t the biggest issue, but the style of her and your dress, and the casualness of the wedding. If you wore a “white tie” style dress to a more casual wedding that would be reasonable to be upset about, but just the concept of having a more expensive dress by dollar amount is silly.
Yta for comparing dress prices and putting her down for a ‘cheap dress’.
INFO:
Was there something special about your dress that a person looking at it would clearly realize “wow, that’s a $1000 dress”?
And how did the bride find out that your dress cost $1000+?
I can tell from the tone of your writing YTA.
YTA
This involves a lot of reading between the lines because your core question of “can i wear a dress that is more expensive than the bride’s dress” is obviously yes. But there should not have ever been a conversation around how much your dress costs, which leads me to believe it’s not a “simple dress”. I’ve been to a dozen weddings and I have never been asked how much my dress costs. Ever. I’ve also never known how much the bride’s dress costs.
Its clear that the price of the dress wasn’t a problem. You don’t upstage a bride by having a more expensive dress. You upstage the bride by having a more extravagent dress. But again, making this judgment involves reading between a lot of lines and also drawing conclusions around the reliability of the narrator. You don’t seem like a reliable narrator because you’re intentionally missing her point and you’re being judgmental about the price of her wedding dress.
Your comment about her cheap dress makes you an AH.
She shouldn’t have approached you after I guess.
If your dress drew more attention than her wedding dress then you are doubly the AH.
What did the dress look like? What was the setting of the event? If it was a backyard wedding and you were swanning around in a designer evening gown then yes, YTA. If everyone else was wearing like their church clothes and you had on a ballgown then YTA. A wedding doesn’t mean ‘dress as fancy as I can’ it means dress appropriate to the event.
Why on earth would you spend $1000 for a dress and then talk about it as if that’s its most important characteristic? YTA.
YTA
You are tone deaf. 500 isn’t a cheap dress and spending 1000 on a dress isn’t what the average person can afford. You come off rich and snobby. Wedding guest are expected to dress appropriately for the event not take the opportunity to show off. If she noticed and asked about the price it’s clear that the dress was out of place.
YTA not for the dress but for your attitude. You are just full of it.