My friend asked to borrow my hoodie a few months back because she forgot hers, and she specifically asked for one that was expensive. This hoodie I had only worn twice from the moment I had bought it so it did mean much to me. I agreed because I felt bad if I had said no to her.
It’s been 3 months now and she still has not returned it. During this time our friendship started to grow distant. She’d make rude remarks about my appearance or sarcastically make fun of me. She had also started to stop sharing locations with me, leaving me on delivered for weeks and would not put efforts into the friendship no longer. I am too tired of this and stopped chasing her. However, she still has the hoodie that I most cherished. I asked her if I could get it back and she said she would give it back but it has been 2 weeks now and no updates from her and when I try to text her again she would not respond.
Would I be the asshole for messaging her again to ask for it back? Or asking her to send the money I had spent on that hoodie if she doesn’t want to see me?
NTA, but you’ve just learned that anything you loan to anyone should be considered a gift.
NTA she is a user and you need to show up at her house and tell her to return the hoodie. Then find better friends
I remember I fell out with a friend who gave me her bracelet as a gift before the friendship ended. In that case, I didn’t have an obligation to give the bracelet back. You LOANED her the hoodie, that does not give her the right to keep it. NTA.
NTA, stand up for yourself and get your shit back.
Get you shi back
NTA show up at her house and ask for it back. Ash her parents if you have to
Tell her you want it back. If she doesn’t respond go to her house tell her parents you need your hoody. Her parents should make her give it back.
NTA. Ring her doorbell so she can’t make excuses or “forget”.
Go to her house and ask for it. If you’re a teenager, make sure it’s a time when her parents are home and she’s not so they can grab it for you.
NTA. The number of goodies my son has “lost” to girls could clothe a marching band.
Youre a BIG girl….hold your hand out…say the words….please give m e my hoodie back. Done!!
NTA
Just go to her place and get it back
It’s like she stole your hoodie and is now ignoring you so she can keep it. Don’t let her! Show up at her house. Demand it back.
You sure as hell don’t need her “friendship,” but bi$%^ does not get to keep your hoodie.
NTA
I bet when you get it back, it will be well worn. Asking for the money would be good. However this negative unpleasant person may never pay you back.
Is it possible for you to call at her home when you know she will be in?
You will need to be assertive. – Look up techniques. I think you will need it as she wanted your hoodie and will probably belittle you for asking for your own property back. She is not your friend.
You could practice what you are going to say. Maybe take someone with you for moral support.
Good luck OP.