Okay so here’s the situation: I allowed or rather gave my ok to my housemates (we own the house together) girlfriend to move in provided she pay a share of rent and utilities to the both of us. Well she paid for maybe 2 months and then stopped paying anything and hasn’t paid anything in over a year at this point.
She also does not clean or do anything really and just spends 15-18 hours a day in bed on her phone, only leaving the house occasionally and so I literally never have the house to myself (he leaves all the time for work, whatever).
She also has not held a steady job in months and when she did they spent it on fast food and other crap.
I have told him many times I want her out and he agrees but then constantly pushes timeframes back or makes excuses. I have told him now I am done playing and I am drafting an eviction letter which he will either sign and she will be evicted or I will force a partition sale on the house.
He is an extremely good and longtime friend of mine and I do not want this to happen like this, and I always want the best for him (which getting away from her certainly would be).
Anyways aita for demanding her out of the house. I’ll admit she’s not necessarily literally in my way but I do the majority of the housework and such and she sits around all day do nothing not working not contributing and it infuriates me to no end, and I just cannot take it anymore.
NTA for how you feel but you sure are in a tough situation.
NTA. They’re both just feeding you BS and expecting you to go along with it forever.
ESH. Buying a house with a friend is a recipe for disaster. She’s deadweight though so i hope your friend sees the light.
It really is. Things were different when we bought the house. I love the house too 😢
Nothing sucks more in life than having to get up, get dressed, fight traffic, work hard all day for ungrateful people, pay outrageous bills just to exist, and then come home and sit and look at someone who does none of those things and still enjoys all the fruits of your labors. You’re a saint. I’d have dragged her out by her hair a long time ago. NTA.
I wouldn’t say I’m a saint lol I think a saint just wouldn’t care at all. I feel bad for kicking her out but I also don’t want to be taken advantage of. But you’re exactly right. She’s not my child she’s a 35 year old woman yes you heard that right.
OMG, 35 years old???!!! Kick her out, she’s lazy and both of them don’t care about you or your boundaries!!! Make it legal, go to the courthouse to get the eviction paperwork. Where she goes afterwards is NOT your problem. NTA
NTA.
Tell your roommate that his gf has 30 days to get out or get a job and start paying rent as was agreed, or you WILL force a sale of the house. He’s making you help support her, which I’m sure you weren’t consulted about. Your friendship is probably already blown up, so might as well give it a merciful termination.
Is there ANY possibility that you could buy him out?
NTA, do exactly as you’ve stated here. She’s taking the piss, she needs to go
NTA, but now you know. As an adult, don’t play house with a friend.
You must get out of this living arrangement asap. It’s bringing you down. The friendship is over. He doesn’t respect you. Who wants a “friend” whose partner is a loser?