My husband and I have been together 8 years married for 3. For context, we bought our house 4 years ago and it has an attached garage and then another garage that sits on the hill above our house that you can get to from a back alley. In the 4 years we have lived here I have never been able to park in the garage. He keeps his boat on the garage attached to the house and the upper one has a lot of storage stuff in it and also the way it is built, it is on a hill which would make it extremely hard to pull into/back out of with it being situated on a hill and in a narrow alley. He has been away on a fishing trip the last few days and I have been parking in the garage and it’s been nice and I told him that and he said i need to move it out by the time he is home for the boat. AITA for thinking he would just keep his boat outside with a tarp over it? Also we have a 1 year old who only rides in my car because his truck with access seats is not big enough to fit a car seat so it’s nicer getting her in the car when it’s in the garage.
NTA. this triggers me a bit since i had the same issue and it was a hill i was willing to die on come winter storm time.
i would not be moving your car from the garage if i were you.
NTA. Why should his stuff get priority over your needs? I am with you on this. Let his boat sit out under a tarp. I live in a Scandinavian country and boats sit out all winter under tarps. The only thing I can think of that would be an issue is if there are rules in your area for having boats out on the property.
INFO: Is there a place the boat could live outside where it wouldn’t block access to anything else and wouldn’t be vulnerable to vandalism?
We live in decent area where I do not believe anyone would mess with the boat. There is a spot in our driveway that is situated on the side of our house that it could sit and it would not be blocking anything.
NTA
Unless you have an HOA that explicitly forbids this, it’s unreasonable for him to use that space for an item that he doesn’t use regularly that can easily be placed outside.
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I was in my house for 15 years and had never once parked in the garage. I bought a vintage car last year and I flat out told my husband I was parking in the garage so he could figure it out or I would. I have had two cars totaled parked in front of my house, one I absolutely loved, and I wasn’t playing with this one. It’s my daily and my husband gave no arguments because he knew how I felt. He helped me clean the garage of his stuff and now my car is there. Tell him he can park his boat in the unattached garage but you’re using the attached garage because you have a child and she takes priority over a boat.
Nta. He can always put up a carport for the boat.
Solution here: the 2nd, detached garage can store the boat. Since it’s currently used for storage, all that stuff will need to be relocated. Yes, it would be tricky to get the boat in and out, however your husband can view it as a challenge.
Real answer: you have a marriage problem. Your husband doesn’t care what you think, only what he wants. His vehicle can’t accommodate his child FFS. He’s unwilling to compromise regarding where a boat is parked. I’m sure there’s plenty of other examples. Is it a huge problem right now? No. But in the long term, it can really put strain on a relationship. You and he need to talk, and possibly with a 3rd party to help facilitate that conversation.
So he puts his toy in the garage and his kid in the rain? And then his choice of vehicle prevents him from parenting (rides etc)? I’d tell him the boat goes outside, the car goes inside, and he needs a better truck.
nta
do you own? he needs to grow up and fix things so it works. make room for the boat outside, how does the boat even fit in the garage, if it doesnt fit in the garage, is he just blocking the driveway? thats ridiculous. theres all that space in the back that can also be used.
you guys arent short on space, you guys are short on reasonable arrangment
NTA. It’s 100% reasonable to expect one garage parking spot when you have two garages.
NTA. Your husband is, though. What kind of parent is he that he cares more about his boat than his child? He can’t even take her out in his vehicle!!! Wow!
If you only have a 1 car garage attached to the house, then the wife that hauls a baby/ todler around gets that 1 spot. No excuses.
If the boat doesn’t also fit, then the boat needs to go into the other garage or sit outside.
Personally, if it’s that much trouble to get the boat into and out of the other garage, i would get a cover, and/or get one of those aluminum carport canopies for the boat to park under.
I say that as a man with a boat.