So I’m my house I prefer shoes not to be worn. I keep my carpets clean and outdoor shoes are dirty.
I make sure everyone knows in advance, so its not a surprise. I also have brand new ‘hotel slippers’ for people to use I’d they want.
Recent I was having a gathering at my house but one of the women refused to take her shoes off. She said she didn’t think I was being serious when I told her before hand that she’d have to take them off. She got really annoyed and wouldn’t come in and she stormed off.
Am I the asshole in this situation?
NTA – your house your rules.
Says more about her than you given that she left bc someone asked her to respect their home.
I wouldn’t want people spreading outside filth around my house and on my carpets.
no. she’s the problem
Lol NTA, your house, your rules. Maybe it’s where I’m from (Midwest USA) but it’s not common to leave your shoes on especially in the winter months. And I’ve never heard of offering slippers to guests. Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t see what the big deal is.
NTA. (Even if you hadn’t told them and didn’t have slippers available, I would still say NTA because people should not expect to continue to wear their outdoor shoes inside. But then, I live in a country where that is typical and almost no one leaves their shoes on inside.)
Tell me you’re in America without saying you’re in America. 😂
Also, no. It’s your house. Shoes are dirty and could have dog poo on them. Ew.
Haha thanks. But I’m actually English!
nta. you place, your rules. plus it is cleaner to remove outdoor shoes to keep the inside of your home clean. very common in asian cultures as well for the same reason.
Your house your rules
NTA, I know this is stereotypical of me as a Canadian but I would never wear shoes in someones house. We leave those at the door. And yes, after a house party, somehow all the right blundstones end up on the right feet (usually).
NTA, we’re a shoe free household too and rarely have to ask our guests to take off their shoes. They often just immediately do it or they ask us if we want them to take their shoes off. That woman must have never been a guest in someone’s house before.
NTA. My dad has to wear shoes in the house so he brings his house shoes with him
Nta. Signed, a Canadian.
Humans, take off your outside shoes when you go inside. It’s basic hygiene, like washing your hands before you eat.
Nope, NTA. It’s YOUR HOUSE. She can follow the (perfectly reasonable) house rule or not come in.
But also, I was raised in Minnesota and you just simply do not wear shoes in anyone’s house there. I now live in CA and I still can’t wear shoes in a house. Muscle memory dictates that I take shoes off the second I cross the threshold.
NTA
In some non-USAnian cultures, it’s mandatory to remove shoes when entering the house. Japan and Italy, for two examples from different continents. Even in Canada, while it’s not mandatory, it’s a near-universal custom and becoming increasingly so. And it is picking up momentum in the USA.
People like your annoyed guest need to buy a clue.
p.s. In Italy, homeowners have multiple pairs of cloth slip-ons (*pantofole*, IIRC) lined up by the door. All guests remove their shoes and slip on the *pantofole*, and spend their entire visit polishing the marble floors as they walk — er, slide — around.