My parents decided to go camping this weekend but i was told i couldnt come due to me having wok so i have to stay at home by myself to go to my dads. I love camping and have been asking them for a year when there gonna take me again, my parents refuse to do anything “exciting” when my step sisters aren’t with our family so they dont get angry and feel left out. So now when they are taking my four sisters and not me i feel angry and jealous for not being able to go or them rescheduling for me so i can be included. I hate now they control our schedules and if we are allowed to do anything as a family when they aren’t included. My parents also never really get up them for anything and let them be mean and say they hate them. But when i did that i got in lots of trouble, and when i get back be screamed at for being a smartass.
NTA
But they totally are the AH, treating you like Cinderella. Please don’t confront them.
You don’t mention your age but you did say you’re working. Save every penny. Ask a friend if you can stay with them until graduation. Stop asking your parents for anything, including trips. Make it your goal to move out asap and in with a friend or roommates. Take some college or trade courses to improve your wages. If your parents neglect you, kick you out again or lay a hand on you, report them to the police asap.
Please protect yourself. Tell your school counselor what’s going on at home.
ETA: Once you’re out of their house, you can decide whether or not to go LC or NC.
I didnt really get “kicked out” she did tell me to leave, which i did but came looking for me
Well, you DID say you got kicked out.
Are there any other things you said on your post that aren’t really true?
Your right im sorry for lying no nothing else
Whether or not you are the A-hole here depends entirely on how you approach this. I’m not saying don’t confront them, and I’m not saying to be gentle about it, but you have to approach this civily and as a matter of fact, rather than an emotional approach that they can push off as jealousy or dismiss as angst. Write it out, keep your tone even, lay out the facts and tell them, not show them, how you feel about this.
NTA, but OP, you do need to realize that nothing anyone says here will change your parents, and you might just have to accept that they won’t work around you, and figure out what kind of relationship you want to have with them moving forward. What you say to them may get them to reconsider things but it’s going to be a lot of talking and negotiating things you wouldn’t have though needed compromise.
I will point out that the work issue complicates things. It’s tough to plan family activities around a work schedule on short notice. Are your step-sisters working ages? Are any of them working? I’m not saying this excuses them, by any means, but it is something that they might bring up when you confront them. Be ready to talk about it. Be ready to realize that your relationship with your parents might be more distant than you want at this moment. That will be a hard truth, but accepting it might make it easier to accept how they see you and treat you.
“We’re bringing the hibachi on this camping trip, no woks allowed!” lol
I guess, given the information here, NTA for being upset about favoritism
😂 you funny man thanks for making me smile
What’s wok? And are you staying home alone or going to your dad’s? Isn’t your dad going on the camping trip though? I’m so confused.
Sorry, my step-dad and mother are going camping my dad gets home from FIFO around then
INFO: How old are you and your sisters?
YTA. Your family planned a trip on a weekend you were there. You chose to work instead of ask off from your part time job to go with them. That was your choice. Scheduling around everyone’s custody, parents work, and other activities is complicated enough. You were included but chose to work. My brother often did this in high school and college and would occasionally complain AFTER the trip/event that he wasn’t included but his sisters were. My mom always gave him plenty of notice. He worked a part time job for fun money as my parents paid for all of our “must haves.”
He worked at a coffee shop and a chain restaurant. He could have asked off work. He chose not to and then sometimes complained. He wanted the money more than he wanted to go on the family trip UNTIL he saw pictures of the family trip. My mom was always careful to plan around all 4 kids school schedules (including when we were in college and sometimes had summer classes/internships), she planned in advance, and gave lots of notice. The other kids would take off from our part time jobs or use vacation days (sometimes unpaid) from internships.
I think there may be a bit of favoritism but I think that you also have a massive chip on your shoulder (whether warranted or not) and need to think about the choices you’re making now. You are choosing to not include yourself in your family and to distance yourself more and more. I understand that you’re young but do you think that this will be magically reversed without you making the choice to include yourself starting now? Spend time with your family and ask to help plan events including camping! You can’t get this time back of being with your family.
Yeah your right i am being a bit selfish, with my job you have to request time off 2 weeks before or try and trade your shift. I am saving for my own car so i do want the money, i guess a single trip isnt that bad. Sorry about your brother my shifts are randomly assigned and i got unlucky. Now i can see my problem, thanks for your different pov man appreciate it.