Me, 22M, and my GF, 21F, are both students and live with our parents, we have been dating for the last 4 years. Today i had a fight with my parents, details are not important. But when i went to talk about it to my my GF she started acting weird, she wasnt interested so i stopped talking abt it. Later that day i asked her if she was coming back from work, she wasnt interested in talking and was kind of distant again, when i asked what was wrong she started saying i should be a real man and shouldnt be talking about my feelings. She mocked me saying its childish fighting with my parents. I believe this reaction is because she was excited for a trip later this week witg my family, that i assume she believes is now ruined. So AITA?
Without any details on the fights it’s hard to say if she’s upset at the reasons you were fighting to begin with, but, are you the AH for telling her you feelings? No
My mom has this terrible habit of screaming to my dad and sister, most of the time I get involved and try and calm her down. My GF believes i shouldnt get involved, since most of the time it ends in a fight
NTA. As your girlfriend, she should be there for you in the moments you want to let out your feelings. Men can absolutely and should talk about their feelings, especially with their partners. She was rude about it
NTA you should be able to talk to your partner regardless of gender.
Considering she seemed to be upset that you were arguing with your parents, maybe some context for the argument would be helpful. The “be a man and not talk about your feelings” is still not ok but she mentioned you were being childish for arguing with your parents which may be true depending on the subject.
NTA. Dump her. Save yourself years of pain and issues.
NTA.
You can always tell her that she’s not ready to meet your parents. Say they’re not interested in someone who is not kind to you and only wants to show you scorn.
NTA OH break up, this is a wildly toxic mindset, of course men should talk about their feelings, EVERYONE should. Everyone fights with their parents too, people need to vent sometimes. Please don’t think that you’re weak or childish for needing this very basic human experience.
The strongest people are those who are able to speak up about their thoughts and feelings, it’s a huge show of strength to be able to openly express yourself
“Be a man” is kind wierd…but NTA .
Weird comment though from her…
Oh, she’s *mean*.
She dismisses your feelings because she doesn’t care, and because it might inconvenience her. She will keep doing that.
Do you want to spend your life with a *mean* person?
NTA.
NTA. Your gf doesn’t see you as a real person with real feelings.
NTA: You should be able to talk your partner about your feelings if you can’t there is something wrong with your relationship. And it’s not emotionally healthy for people to keep their feelings in . Please think long and hard about whether you want to continue this relationship.
NTA
I promise you as one woman that most well adjusted ones respect being open with your feelings
People you care about are supposed to be your shoulder to cry on when you have problems, as any real human being does