Husband wishes to travel overseas to attend his cousin’s wedding. Our baby will be 2.75 months old at the time. I wish for him to stay with me and support me as I find it difficult to do the ‘night shifts’ i.e. stay up at night to look after the baby. I sleep 3-4 hours on nights that I look after her and then the next day feel tired/groggy/have headaches. Normally, we take turns doing the nights. During this time, I would be staying with my parents so it would be very helpful to have cooking looked after and an extra pair of hands when they’re not working.
Am I the asshole for saying to him to not go or am I being unreasonable for not letting him go for 7-8 nights? Why do I feel guilty if I say no? Why do I feel obliged to say yes to my husband? Why can’t HE choose not to go and prioritise his new family?
His solution is for me to come with him with the baby however I feel uncomfortable by this as it’s a third world country, she won’t have head/neck control etc
A similar thing happened when I was pregnant as well (7 weeks pregnant and he travelled overseas and I was unhappy about that), however this time he is asking me what I want and is very loving and caring. Am I the asshole for not sucking it up for 8 nights/days or him?