Hi M22, me and my best friend dreamed off being Special Policemans,but he got denied and my plan is to be in a special force. I got accepted and want to work my Way to be there one day.
I like the job and im very happy. He isnt. And since he got denied and I got acceptet he kinda is distant and weird towards me even tho Its not my fault.
I love him like a brother and I think off quitting the job so he isnt the only one not working his dream job.
So, AITA ?
NAH
It’s not your fault that he didn’t get into police training and you did.
But I also think it is understandable that your friend doesn’t feel good about. Like you said it was his dream and now he gets constantly reminded that he failed at that. Just give him a bit of time and I’m sure your relationship will be back to normal.
alright thanks
WTF this is so crazy. You are considering writing the job just because your friend isn’t mature enough to control his envy. Live your life. Your friend is the asshole
NTA. But you would be the asshole to yourself if you quit. And he would be the asshole for not being happy for his best friend. Sure he naturally feels disappointed right now, but he will get over it and he wouldn’t want to hold you back from your dreams.
Just don’t talk to him about how happy you are and how much he you enjoy it as that will sting him right now.
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What are special policemans?
Higher ranked policemans that have a chance to get in special force by going a harder path including military of 3 years and other things
NTA, and don’t quit for that reason. It is understandable that he is upset and disappointed about not getting in, maybe he just needs a bit of space from you now to come to terms with it and be able to be happy for you. If he turns resentful about it or starts to take out his disappointment on you, then he is not a good friend to you. Either way, quitting a job you like to be miserable together is not a good idea, you will start to resent him for your decision when you are in a job that does not make you happy and you remember where you could have been instead.
NTA.
There’s no such thing as calling dibs on a job, so you didn’t do anything wrong.
Friend might get salty (at himself, at life; again, not your fault) for a bit, but in a longer term if friend cannot be happy for you on your achievement, maybe this friendship is unilateral.
If he got a job you wanted, would you want him to quit?
I would be so happy for him and still would be sad as I cant follow my dream,I guess its normal and Idk how to handle the whole situation :/
Why do you think him getting something means you cant follow your dream? But my point is, you would do what a good friend does, which is be happy for him even if you are hurt and possibly jealous, which is a completely valid human emotion.
He didn’t feel happy for you, he’s pushed you to the point of you considering giving up something that truly makes you happy, that isn’t a friend and that isn’t someone worth sacrificing anything for.
Quitting your job because someone else wasn’t good enough to get in would be a really, really stupid thing to do.
But it doesn’t make you an AH. Just stupid.