So I F19 flew home last night and as I stood up to retrieve my bag, I noticed that the bag of an older gentleman behind me was right beside mine. He had some trouble lifting the bag to overhead bin, so I asked him if he’d like me to grab it for him. He said yes and I turned to hand him his bag and accidentally bumped into a man with my backpack. I apologized and said it was never my intention to hit him and that I was sorry that I did, and he responded with “it doesn’t matter the intention, it matters that you did.”
I repeated that I understood and that I was sorry, and he said I was an “ungrateful child who likes to hit people.”
I tried to ignore him after that until he stuck his foot out in front of me to try and save his spot in line, I looked at him and made a big step over it.
He then purposely bumps into my back and I turned around and told him to “chill the f out” (which I understand is a little extreme but it was like 11:30pm)
We get off the plane and he pulls his phone out to try and get a picture of me and my tag on my luggage (address and phone number) and him and i go back and forth until i end up yelling at him that he’s a creepy man who needs friends or a hobby since he obviously doesnt have either. A United employee came up to us and separated us, but i cant help but feel guilty for what i said and the little things i did to lowk ragebait him.
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I’m sorry this happened to you, good job standing up for yourself. Some people are just assholes who enjoy feeling power over other people. It will make your life easier if you don’t swear at them as they use it as proof to say you are in the wrong to third parties, but good job overall.
NTA. Get a luggage tag with a cover over your personal information. That had the potential to get super creepy.
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He knew it was an accident and you apologized not once, but twice about it. Things like that are bound to happen on a plane. The fact that he stuck his foot out in the aisle and tried to take a picture of you and your personal information is ridiculous.
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This interaction should have ended when you apologized for unintentionally hitting him with your backpack. Sounds like he just wanted to fight.
NTA. This guy thinks he can get away with speaking like this cause you are 19.
Also I am not sure you baited him, he kept coming after you. Sure you could have probably gone straight to the stewards but as you said it’s 11pm and no one thinks straight getting off a plane at that hour.
I also had someone try and start something small with me on a flight, my petty payback was to angle myself in front of the aisle, slowly walk off, letting anyone in rows in front off before me.
Also a good idea not to put your address on any luggage tags (mobile & email). Not because of this but because if you are on holidays there is a good chance no one is at that address. (I am a bit paranoid and this info is for everyone!)
NTA.
He’s an older guy who wanted to take his frustrations out on an “uppity woms” and he elected you as his personal punching bag, both figuratively and literally. His photography stunt was an attempt to intimidate you, scare you, and put you “in your place” because you didn’t defer to him when he was wrong and called him out for being wrong.
He’s one of the reasons why “women prefer the bear.”
And before the #NotAll brigade come at me, most of the people who get offended when women call this out, won’t say a thing when it’s happening in front of them.
NTA. sounds like you didn’t rage bait him; you were someone getting off a plane, and bumping into people always happens when people are offloading from the plane. there was no reason for him to respond like he did. seems more like he was acting like a child and decided to bully you cause you’re a young girl
Honestly… He tried to get her name and address from her tag.
He sounds like he wanted to harm her, or *at a minimum* kick off with harassing her. Find her employer find her socials, tell other incels to harass her, take your pick.
This guy was not safe.
NTA, complete overreaction on his part
NTA. He picked a fight with someone he thought was going to be too meek to fight back. You weren’t. If this is exactly how it happened, you 100% handled it reasonably.
Grown ass man bullying teenage girl?
I’d wager if he was close enough to get bumped, he was already too close. Scolds you, tries to block your way, etc?
At the risk of being extreme… Dude has abuser vibes all over.
Actually, since he tries to get your *name and address*, he has psycho vibes all over. He planned to continue harassing you, at a minimum. May have planned to harm you.
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NTA – i’m so petty I would’ve screamed and yelled. I’m a minor and this predatory man is trying to get my address and phone number and take pictures of me as loudly as I could in the airport.
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He should have accepted the apology and the interaction ended there.
However, he is, the AH and definitely creepy.
NTA girl u did what u had to do, u stood up for yourself and thats all that matters that guy was js a j3rk (idk why it wont let me say the word?? im fairly new to reddit)