I (29F) was on a group call with my two older sisters (32F and 34F) and my mother. We all live in different countries, so we talk on group calls regularly. My oldest sister is currently pregnant and has been more irritable and snappy lately. Most of the time i have assumed itsdue to her hormones and have tried not to take her attitude personally.During the call my mother mispronounced a word in our native language. My mother has never been to school and struggles with pronunciation sometimes. When this happened, my older sister snapped at her in a very disrespectful and demeaning tone saying something like, “Why are you saying it like thst?Dont you even know how to say it? " One thing about our mom is that she is very naive. She rarely stands up for herself and has lived a difficult life. She usually just takes things quietly and doesnt argue back. Seeing my sister speak to her that way made me lose my temper and I yelled at my sister. I dont remember my exact words, but the gist was that she needed to get off her high horse and stop talking down to our mom. This led to some back and forth yelling between us. Then my other sister and my mom intervened and told us to stop, and eventually I calmed down. After a while, I tried to speak to my sister normally, but she completely ignored me. She responded to my mom and our other sister as usual but would not acknowledge me at all even when I called her name. Eventually we ended the call.
Now I feel really bad about yelling at her, even though I was trying to stand up for my mom. So AITA?
you were just sticking up for your mom and just because your sister is pregnant doesn’t make it okay for her to be disrespectful. yeah her hormones are probably all over the place but she can control what comes out of her mouth.
NTA
Nope!
NTA You spoke up for your Mom.
NTA, disrespect my mom and I’m swinging IDC if we blood relatives or not.
No, you’re not. Sounds like she deserved it.
She was RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL towards your mother! You had every right to stand up for her. Your sister is angry because someone actually called her out on it. Pregnant or not, does NOT give her the right to be that towards the woman who BIRTHED and RAISED her!!!
NTA
Bullies hate being called out. You might have went overboard since you can’t remember what you said but still NTA.
Pregnancy is not an excuse for disrespecting your mom. NTA, and good on you for defending your mom
In general pregnancy isn’t an excuse to be a crap person.
I applaud OP as well for standing up for mom.
Don’t take pregnancy as an excuse to be an ass. Your sister was a jerk and should be called out. Just ignore her.
NTA. Being pregnant is not a free pass to be an Ahole. She was nasty to your mum and it was uncalled for. Especially as you said, sometimes she has trouble pronouncing words. So why get in her face now. Your mum obviously likes the quiet life and doesn’t want to make a fuss. That doesn’t mean your sister can belittle her and get a free pass.
I’ve been pregnant twice and both were bloody miserable. But, at no point did I use it as an excuse to be nasty and rude. I was snappy and irritable at times. I’m sure my husband would be quick to agree. But to put someone down like that, that’s never ok. That sister should be apologising for making your mum feel rubbish. She may hide it well, but I bet it hurt her inside.
For years, I have listened to my brother in law talk about pitchers. He’ll show me a pitcher on his phone. He built something and wants to show off a pitcher.
Every time, it’s like nails on a chalkboard and I want to go, “sir, it’s a picture. Pitchers are for water or throw baseballs. This is a picture.” But, I don’t, because it’d be a rude thing for literally no reason.
It’s a pet peeve. I choose to ignore it because it won’t do anything but demean the guy. I’d be the asshole. I choose not to be.
Your sister has no such qualms.
NTA. I’m currently pregnant, hormonal, irritable and sleep deprived, but I’m mature enough to know that’s no one else’s problem.
You can be both pregnant and an asshole, and it is shameful to disrespect your parents. You did the right thing by standing up for your mom.
Your sister needs to get a grip.
Pregnancy is not a pass to be disrespectful or nasty. Coming from a pregnant person lmao. Go you, maybe work with your mom individually about her boundaries she doesn’t deserve this. Who knows what she takes when you’re not around.