My University has held a great forum for psychologists (I’m a freshman of this faculty), I participated in a volunteer at one of the events. All different events were about 50.
My friends could not decide which one of them to go and I started persuading them to go where I would be. They agreed, but this event was terribly boring and not useful for psychologists. As a result, they left in the middle of the event and did not go to other events (because they start at the same time).
I apologized to them, because the theme seemed interesting and I didn’t know that everything would turn up so disappointed. But they still seemed so angry at me.
But then all seemed to quickly forgot this situation, as in the evening in the general group comes voice message from one girl with whom we have close friendship.
Where she very rudely says she wanted to spend interesting time, but went on this shit, accusing me in everything (this message was 1.5 minutes). But before we went to this event I said that everyone should decide where they want to go, though, I will be very happy if they come with me. And as i said before- apologized for several times already.
So now she super cold with me and other kinda too
To be honest? They made the mistake, not you.
Instead of using force, you encouraged. You even apologized several times, and they are adults who could have chosen any occasion.
Hours later, she sent a 1.5-minute angry voicemail, which reveals far more about her emotional development than your error. That is dumping, not “being upset.”
Good friends don’t blindside you and freeze you after you’ve taken responsibility for your part; instead, they communicate in real time.
You were accountable.
They were theatrical.
It’s no longer your fault if she remains cold after all of that.
I would consider it a blessing if she makes such a big deal about a few hours of her time. OP said they could choose.
Definitely NTA. It seems a bit immature to be honest the way your ‘friends’ have reacted – not to be rude but how old are they… ten? Life is boring sometimes and sometimes we find ourselves in boring situations and situations we wish we hadn’t been a part of. It’s not your ‘fault’ because there isn’t even a fault here. You all went to this event and it was boring. I don’t see a big deal in this and I’d be disappointed if my friends reacted this way; it seems completely unnecessary and a bit weird.
fr, we are all already adults, but they still use child reactions (which we study already at general psychology lectures with them)
Nta, they aren’t adults yet judging from your story. They’ll learn to guide their own lives when they mature.
NTA. That’s goofy. People go in and out of academic conference panels/sessions all the time, so they could easily have gone to another.
NTA. Your friends sound awful.
nta but you probably shouldn’t be friends with these people anymore. it’s not like you forced them to go and they literally left in the middle of it. if one of my friends invited me to an event and it was boring i’d just go “wow that was boring” maybe be a little annoyed but forget about it later. i wouldn’t blow up their phone blaming them for wasting my time. i don’t think they respect you.
That girl is an AH OP. She chose to wait to rant on group chat instead of speaking to you privately. She was incredibly rude and immature.
When I go to boring things with friends I enjoy their company and bond over the situation
so true about just enjoying company, it’s exactly what i thought at this event. I was happy to spend time with friends
Uhhhhh your friends are AHs. You didn’t structure the presentation and they looked at the subject matter before making their choice. They seem really immature. NTA
Your friends don’t sound like they have the empathy needed to be on a path to psychology. Find better friends, these aren’t the ones that have mutual respect for relationships and that can accept that “shit happens” get over it!
NTA maybe they need therapy