I have been eligible to get my license for a year now for several complications with me being a wimp and being uncertain I still don’t feel prepared enough to get it, I have been having sad moods because of it just been stressing and basically feeling sorry for myself, just rubbing in self pity and blaming myself but I have been defensively defending what I am being told in terms of hearing snarky comments like “I don’t know how long I can keep up with this if you keep acting this way” “driving is easy” this and that I feel like I’m kinda making things worse for myself, in terms of messing up my relationship, and relationships with family. It can’t possibly be going worse than my driving skills lol. AITA? Any advice? I’m 17
Calm down. You are only hurting yourself. I didn’t get my license until I was 21. It wasn’t the end of the world. When you are mentally ready, you will do it.
Get it but don’t tell a GD soul. Seriously.
YTA if your emotions are so unregulated that you’re lashing out at friends. Fixating on not having your driver’s license and labelling yourself a wimp is not helping things, but you need to learn emotional regulation. Is therapy an option?
>I think at this point you’re just fighting with yourself
“Yeah, and I fight dirty, so it’s not a battle I enjoy”
But seriously, get comfortable in the car (my car is one of my personal “safe spaces”), practice all the technical stuff… then go for it. You’re going to be nervous, second guess yourself and make mistakes. It’s fine. It’s also fine if you fail the exam the first time or two. Have you *seen* the people out on the road?! The bar isn’t set as high as you think and the best teacher is experience.
Practice the technical stuff (parallel parking, three point stops, etc), but *don’t wait until you’re confident*. Because you’ll never get your license and never learn to be confident. The confidence comes later.
Slight YTA because you keep lashing out people and not helping yourself.
But have you considered checking in with your doctor about anxiety? Even if it’s specific just to driving, it might be helpful.
At the very least look into what vitamins/supplements help with stress/anxiety. Usually vitamin B complex and magnesium will help (not official medical advice, read stuff yourself, ask your doctor).
So you’ve been moping around and lashing out at people for how long? But you think they are the ones in the wrong for telling you they aren’t going to put up with it forever?
YTA I’m sorry that you’re anxious over driving and that’s causing you some setbacks in getting your licence but that’s not the fault of anyone else around you. What you need to do is just keep practising driving until you feel more confident behind the wheel.
YTA. You’re entitled to your feelings but you don’t have any right to take them out on other people because of your own decisions, I don’t know what to tell you.
Are you lashing out at people who are teaching you to drive?
My middle was anxious about practicing and did a lot better with me in the car, rather than her dad. Can you find someone calm, or talk to your parents about taking an actual course from a professional driving instructor?
My friend got his license at 38 and found a driving instructor that specializes in learner drivers with anxiety.
A soft YTA for treating people badly, and it’s only soft because you’re underage and therefore slightly still unformed as a human
ofc YTA
my niece is on the same boat, shes a good driver she thinks shes not that good and still wants more practice.
quit being rude and either get more practice or at least it give it a shot and see how you do. you know u can take more than one test right?
Soft YTA. It’s ok to not get your license yet, I got mine at 23 for various reasons. But you shouldn’t be rude to people about it. Especially if they are people who are trying to help.
You’ll be okay! Start by apologizing to anyone you’ve been rude to. Your parents are a good place to start as they are obviously invested in your being comfortable driving.
I’ve taught a lot of people to drive.
Is there a big parking lot near you that doesn’t have a lot of traffic?
Yta