My wife called me rude last night when she asked me if we could take her co worker home. She failed to give me details on where her co worker lived and her apartment was very difficult to get to due to the roads being blocked off from a major parade. I was able to get close enough (about a block away) and her co worker didn’t even offer to just hop out the car and walk or even scooter because she had a scooter on her and I felt like I literally had to drop her off the front door. It made me feel frustrated and I asked her if she was willing to walk since it was a block ? And it literally doesn’t seem possible because the roads were blocked. My wife then said that it was rude and she felt embarrassed. AM I THE ASSHOLE?
NTA. You were doing a favor by giving the ride in the first place, but you aren’t a magician who can make parade barricades disappear. If the road is physically blocked, it is physically blocked. Expecting you to somehow get to the front door is totally unreasonable, especially since the coworker literally had a scooter with her. Your wife’s embarrassment is misplaced; it isn’t “rude” to deal with the reality of traffic, and frankly, the coworker should have volunteered to hop out the second she saw the road closures.
what was your tone?
I asked her “ are you sure you don’t want to walk or scooter? It’s literally a block away”
No, her walking herself home in a extraordinary situation isn’t being an asshole, but your tone could’ve been. I mean she has to work with this person, but any reasonable person would understand your frustration would’ve gotten out.
NTA. If the roads to access the apartment are physically blocked I don’t know what they are expecting you to do.
How are you supposed to take someone home if they don’t give you the address? This entire situation seems strange.
NTA because it doesn’t make sense. If she won’t tell you where she lives or where to drop her off then you shouldn’t be driving her home.
His wife didn’t tell him beforehand. That doesn’t mean the coworker never told him.
Nta, it was kind of you to give her a lift in the first place and you physically couldn’t get any closer. What does your expect? The car to grow wings and fly over the parade to the front door…
If this was in OB then it’s impossible to get in and out from that parade so NTA
NTA, and I say this as someone who has been the coworker here.
I used to bike to and from work while living right down the road from LSU. Football season road closures could make it difficult for cars to get to my house. It rained and I got a ride from a friend/coworker to work on a game day. Roads closed on the way home, thought it would be fine, just loop around, but we found out they had the street we needed to turn on to get to mine blocked.
What did i do? Told her to pull over and let me hop out, I’d walk the rest of the way. Got a nasty look from the cop who was manning the road block and I just went, “Dude, i live up that way. What do you want me to do?”
NTA, not rude at all. Coworker should have been happy to get a ride so close to home if the roads were blocked. Tell your wife not to offer any more rides, since neither she nor her coworkers have any gratitude in them.
“It looks like the roads are blocked. I don’t know the area well. Is there another way around? If not this may be the closest I can get and your best option may be to walk or ride your scooter the rest of the way home. It’s only a block. But if not, what would you like me to do?”
I think the important part is to put it on them to suggest an alternate solution when none seems available. Makes you sound willing to accommodate them when you know there’s nothing you can do.