I started chatting with people on this livestreaming app called Liveme and I never actually went live myself, but I was having fun talking to streamers in the chat. I talked to this one woman on there, let’s say her name is Casey, and on her livestream she was doing provocative things including requests that people in the chat were giving her.
It’s an adult app, but technically you can get in trouble for being overly provocative on there. Anyways, I’ll admit I was engaging her with what she was doing, but later she did another live where she was just chilling and talking and she asked me if I wanted to come up and voice chat or video chat. I joined with voice chat and there were two other guys in the livestream with us.
We were all kinda flirting with her, but one guy in particular he was kinda being too much. He kept persistently asking for her phone number and telling her to lift her shirt and stuff. She kept telling him that she doesn’t give out her number, but he kept asking and kept trying to get her to show her body. She didn’t seem offended. She was still laughing and talking with him and she eventually said that she sent him her social media and phone number through DM.
I asked her if I could add her on Snapchat and she was like I’ll have to think about it because I don’t really know you. She also told me that it’s ok to speak up and talk more. She said I seemed stressed or bored. So she did another livestream and one of those guys came in and she asked him if he could go live with her, but he said he was busy so she was like "damn, ok." I asked if I could come up and she was like"yeah but don’t be flirting with me and don’t be weird." I kinda took that personally because what? I was saying some flirty stuff last time, but I wasn’t in there asking her to do wild stuff.
I was like "ok. Send me the invite." And she was like "ok but don’t say weird shit or flirt. I just want to talk about normal stuff." And she seems like she was in a bad mood. Next time she is live I want to ask "Why are you telling me not to flirt and not be weird when you’re not telling other guys that?" I really just try to talk to her about regular stuff, because I actually wanted to get to know her. Am I an asshole if I bring that up because that felt disrespectful?
YWBTA. This is an awkward dynamic but what she’s saying is that she isn’t open to flirtation from you. She isn’t obligated to treat you all the same or have the exact same response to each of you. You’re taking your cues from what other guys are doing or getting away with but I think that’s unwise. So yeah if you call her out by essentially saying it’s offensive or disrespectful that she doesn’t treat other guys the same way, that’s out of line because she has zero obligation to treat you the same way she treats someone else.
What you can do if you don’t like your dynamic with her is to stop engaging, find another streamer, etc. It’s clear you aren’t a great match when it comes to flirtatious/adult stuff. She likes you in a more platonic way and if that’s not cool with you, you don’t have to stick around.
YWBTA. Learn to take a hint. She finds you weird and offputting.
She’s not obligated to treat everyone in her live stream equally.
Get over yourself and move on.
YWBTA-she didn’t do anything disrespectful. She made her boundaries with you clear, she does not want you to flirt with her. It doesn’t matter if she said that to others or not, she is being very clear about what she is and isn’t okay with when it comes to your interactions.
Respect that and interact with her in a strictly platonic way, or don’t interact with her at all.
YTA
A little bit of an odd situation but you know what she’s telling you she doesn’t want to flirt with you. She’s also allowed to change her mind. She doesn’t owe you an explanation. It’s her choice if she’s OK with it from others, but not you. Don’t be that guy that doesn’t handle rejection well.
Odds that this woman is a sex worker trying to get clients are near 100%.
Either way, though, YWBTA. She has the right to decide who she does and doesn’t want romantic/sexual attention from.
YWBTA – no means no. She can set a boundary with you, while other people are flirting in her live (she’s also clearly not interested in you like that). It’s her account, so she can make that choice at the end of the day. The easy thing for you to do is remove yourself from this situation and not go live with her anymore if you don’t like what she asked of you.
I think you’re right and I think the best thing for me to do is probably just to stop talk to her and maybe even leave the app entirely. It just feels bad, because I feel like people are always telling me that I’m weird or awkward or something like that and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. But yeah, I think I just need to get over this and move on.
Huh? Just 3 guys chatting to a woman trying to get her attention? Do you pay at any point?
You’re kind of weird if I’m being honest. She don’t want you lil bro.
YTA
Can you describe exactly what makes “ok but don’t say weird shit or flirt. I just want to talk about normal stuff” disrespectful? It sounds like a bunch of dudes are all trying to get her number and socials and she’s just letting you know that that’s not the vibe she wants you to bring.
I don’t think there’s anyway for her to win here. If she doesnt directly tell people to not flirt with her, people are going to complain that she’s not saying anything. If she does say something, then people will say she is being disrespectful. There’s nothing disrespectful about asking you not to say weird things or flirt.
YWBTA. She’s setting a boundary and if you’re offended by it then that’s a you problem and a red flag tbh. She’s not obligated to treat everyone in her stream equally.
YWBTA she doesn’t have to flirt with you just because she flirts with another dude. The fact that you don’t understand that simple concept is likely why she finds you weird to begin with.
She doesn’t have to talk to you at all. YWBTA.