so a long but little backstory, I have a friend who’s always “too busy” to ask about my life or get together, but she has time for other friends who are ah, more successful. I’ve known her for 15 years and was by her side when she was STRUGGLING. she got married to a rich older man and just kinda dropped me for friends who seem to be doing better financially than me. good for her, she has friends who she can maybe relate to more.
so I don’t make much of an effort with her anymore, we’re more surface friends. the last time I spent time with her, maybe 6 months ago? she casually mentioned starting a business with another friend of hers, but was very “well I don’t want to talk about it until it happens” so I don’t ask about it and never heard any more of it.
about 3 weeks ago we made plans to get together, this past weekend. she ends up sort of canceling. “well the weather is going to be terrible but we can still get together if you want” which I took as like disinterest, especially considering she hasn’t replied to any of my other texts about what she wanted to do or what time. (She did however make time to talk shit about another friend to me) she then ends up going out with her other friends after canceling w me, so I’m already a little salty.
This week she posted about a soft launch for her business and I didn’t “like” it or reply bc like I said I was a little salty and she hadn’t personally talked to me about it, and doesn’t ever ask about what’s going on in my life. 🤷🏻♀️
she then posts something about fake friends watching all your stories and never interacting, which is in fact what she always does. But I felt it was maybe directed towards me?
am I the asshole?
NAH. I’m very sorry but it does not sound like this person has been a friend for a long time- no shade, people and circumstances change and we grow apart. It’s okay for you to decide not to hang out or put much effort in, but be open and honest with yourself about the decision and actions, not petty.
Does not matter if it is directed at you, does not sound like you guys are really friends. If she cancelled on you and went out with other people, that should tell you all you need to know.
NTA
she if anything was being rude first. thats not really even a surface friend if she talks shit behind your back or cancels plans to hang out with other people. you should start distancing yourself from her, and if she reaches out, she reaches out. also a like on her story is not even a big deal like who genuinely cares abt that?
Do you really truly care? NTAH
NTA, but why are you even friends with her. Quiet quit that “friendship” and I bet she never texts you again.
NTA – I’d Yelp the sh\*t out of her business but I’m petty.
NTA. But this friendship should done. Just let her go. You’ve outgrown each other
Why are you still wasting your time on this woman? Cut her loose, block her on everything, and move on with your life. You won’t miss her and she won’t care.
Sounds like your lives have taken you different directions and the friendship has naturally drifted apart. It’s not really worth the drama to stress over what they put on social media.