My spouse says he will likely spend New Years with his mom given that his dad passed away earlier this year. He is an only child, and his mom usually spends it with his dad.
We have been married 15 years and usually go out for NYE. He has asked me to spend it at his mom’s house with them.
AITA for saying I don’t know, I’ll see what other plans I have and I might go out that night?
YTA – one time in 15 years, you can’t not go out and support your spouse?
YTA — nothing wrong with saying you think it would be nice for the two of them to have some time together or say that his MOTHER might prefer it to just be him or come up with a reasonable excuse, but you specifically made it sound like you’re looking for better offers.
Unless there’s a mutual dislike between you and his mother, YTA.
Even if there is, she can suck it up for once to support her husband.
YTA. He’s asking for emotional support, you can give up one party
YTA.
Would it hurt to stay in once in 15yrs on an evening to support your husband who is doing something to help his Mum on a difficult occasion, a relatively very short time after his Dad died.
That you want to go out, etc is just pure selfishness.
Yee a little bit. He wants you there I assume, he doesn’t mind having you in an emotional tender environment, he trusts you with that. But why wouldn’t you wanna go? What else would you rather do? Go out to some random place on NYE and spend money because you’ve always done that?
YTA. It should be a given that out of respect for your partners mother, you oblige to his request.
You would rather sit around and wait for a better offer instead of supporting your partner for one night? YTA
YTA. Can you not put yourself in your husband’s shoes? How would you feel if you asked for his support and he said ‘nah, I’d rather have fun with my friends!’
Do you even like your husband?? I can’t imagine being married to someone this selfish and emotionally unavailable.
YTA if you don’t do whatever your spouse needs to support him with this.
Your role is to support him. He wants to support his mom by being with her this first NYE without his dad. Support your husband. That’s literally what you signed up for. What the fuck is the point of being married otherwise?
YTA. I’m sorry but 15 years means 15 NYEs you’ve spent with him and you can sacrifice a night out. If anything, invite the MIL, she might need a good party or at the very least a distraction or some sort, idk.
YTA.
Go support your husband. One night of not partying isn’t going to kill you.
Has to be a bot nobody could possibly be this tone deaf.